I believe in marriage. Marriage opens the doors to the most beautiful gifts of life, from drinking a mutual morning coffee to sharing the same bed in the evening. Marriage is a partnership agreement before the law that forms the building block of a coherent society and provides important privileges to individuals.
Marriages between people of two different genders and raised in two different families cannot and should not be expected to be in absolute harmony and complete agreement. In marriage, it is possible to encounter many problems arising from the relationships between husband and wife, parent and child, and close circle and relatives. The increase in the quantity and changes in the nature of the problems encountered today are directly reflected in relationships.
According to 2018 data of the Turkish Statistical Institute (TUIK); While the number of married couples decreased by 2.9 percent compared to the previous year, the number of divorced couples increased by 10.9 percent. This finding tells us that; Divorcing spouses do not divorce because they have problems, but because they cannot solve the problem.
According to the results of the research on domestic problems and solution methods, eighty-five percent of the problems experienced by unhappy families are also experienced by families who continue their lives happily. So how come some of them are happy and some of them are unhappy? The secret is in problem solving skills. Happy couples are couples who can solve problems together when they occur. They are couples who understand that the problem arises from the marriage relationship, not from themselves, that both parties contribute equally, and face the problems rather than each other. In other words, happy families are happy not because they have no problems, but because they manage to solve problems and use the right methods and methods. Unhappy families are unhappy not because they have problems, but because they cannot solve them. These couples are couples who constantly see the other person's fault, accumulate anger and resentment in their piggy banks, and use it to hurt the other person when the time comes.
Life is a school. Just as a student faces questions to pass his/her class, people also have problems they face in the school of life. A happy and successful student is a student who never gets asked questions. He was successful not because he was a student, but because he answered questions. In other words, he owes his happiness to questions. The only difference between an unhappy and unsuccessful student is that he answers the questions correctly.
Another point is that spouses may love or dislike each other day by day due to problems between spouses. Consider an atomic nucleus. Despite its small size, it can be transformed into an atomic bomb with high destructive power that will destroy the world, or into nuclear energy that can illuminate and warm the earth. Just like the atomic nucleus, domestic problems can either destroy or satisfy the family. The trick is in how you unlock this potential.
After a certain point in marriages, couples' problems can exceed the limits they can overcome. Both the fatigue and resentment caused by the problems in the relationship and the psychological accumulations prevent the spouses from confronting the problems objectively, since they are themselves taking sides. At this point, it is very important to get help from an experienced expert without wasting time.
Remember; The problem you cannot solve will solve you. If there is a desire to solve problems, they can be solved to a large extent. The important thing is to know how to take steps before the relationship gets too tired, before the love runs out and before the resentments become excessive.
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