Dear clients, I briefly touched upon the problems we most frequently encounter in marriage and relationships and made short suggestions, thus aiming for you to review your own relationship.
1-Perspective and family cultural differences: Woman It is perfectly natural for there to be differences in being married, being a man, money management, lifestyle (clothing, etc.), spending free time, raising children and similar issues. The real problem is imposing your own truth, not compromising or not respecting differences. If the difference is very deep, work should be done with the help of a couple therapist.
2- Differences in personal development level: While the probability of having problems with someone who is at their own center, respectful of boundaries and open to development is very low, Problems are inevitable with someone who does not improve himself, insists on his own truths, and is closed to development.
3-Discussion and communication deficiencies: Constantly focusing on his own victimization or the past, mind-reading, and not listening disrupt the couple's communication. Couples can learn healthy communication in a short time and get rid of meaningless arguments with simple communication techniques that prevent the perception disorder that occurs when under stress (perceiving the spouse negatively, etc.).
2-Reflections of the past : Problems and traumas that have been watched (modelled) or experienced in the past are reflected in the present. The important thing is to be able to notice this reflection. Remember that your spouse has not lived through your past. That's why we teach focus skills during our therapies.
3-Sexual problems: Sexual problems are reflected in marriage (50 percent), and marital problems are reflected in sexuality (50 percent). Lack of sexual desire, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, and erectile dysfunction are among the most common sexual problems. Solving the problem related to sexuality has a positive impact on marriage. Solving sexual problems is usually easier than you think. While factors such as hidden anger towards the spouse and power struggles are reflected in sexuality, problems such as vaginismus and premature ejaculation are reflected in marriage.
6-Boundary and distance problems: The relationships between spouses with each other, with their children, and with their own families. Violation of relevant boundaries creates serious problems. Excessive closeness or closeness as well as coldness between spouses However, the desire to do everything together and constant attention and contact can also cause problems. Distance adjustment is possible with awareness. Rapid recovery can be achieved through simple boundary compromises, adjustment of individual distance, and different activities.
7- Choosing the wrong partner: Choices made in difficult times (when broke, feeling lonely, cheated, etc.). It causes serious problems after a while.
8-Individual problems: Serious psychological problems, especially; If there are personality disorders and alcohol and substance addiction, it seems very difficult to solve couple problems without the addition of individual therapy.
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