This week I wanted to touch on this subject a little bit. Because I have observed that it is a situation that I have encountered a lot in my clinical practice recently.
One of the most common complaints we hear from many couples is that the person feels "worthless and does not exist" in the relationship. The person states that he/she is tired of being constantly criticized by his/her partner directly or in roundabout ways. A person's self-respect begins to decrease over time, and with the process, he begins to lose his self-confidence. One of the worst aspects of such relationships is that in order to get rid of this situation and not to be criticized, the person starts to tear himself up to please his partner and to make him happy. No matter what he does, he cannot escape criticism. In particular, the abusive partner will want to isolate the victim and completely take over the ropes, and for this, he will gradually distance the person from all his surroundings and friends. Abusive partners will be totally critical and abrasive when alone with you, just like anyone else, while in a crowd they will be completely polite and courteous to you. In this way, he will receive compliments as if you have a good, understanding partner. The abusive partner will not be satisfied with anything and will try to put you on the ground while constantly comparing you to others and praising you. Now, in the face of these humiliations, the person will make a great effort to be exactly what his partner wants and will cease to be himself. However, it will still not be enough for the abusive partner and will be exhausted by feeling more and more worthless with each passing day. In the face of these actions; When you say that I am tired, I am not enough for you and that's why I want to leave you, the job will be reversed and the abusive partner will try to deceive you by apologizing, saying I'm in love with you, I can't live without you. . It means to forgive such people every time and give them a chance! Yourself succumbing to the feeling of worthlessness by surrendering to abuse. It will cause you to lose your self and your personality. Therefore, do not wear yourself out by wasting your raise for anyone who does not accept you as you are and does not love you for who you are. Because remember that whatever you do to an abusive partner, you will never be enough. Because those relationships will also be fed by abuse. Do not forget to apply to get support from an expert so that you can get rid of the victim psychology as soon as possible and look at your own path.
I wish you all a pleasant reading. I wish you to have healthy relationships where you are not abused and you can be in a relationship; Love….
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