Report Cards Should Not Be a Tool for Reward and Punishment
What should be the reward for the student whose report card is very good?
Is it the success he has achieved, or is it something to be taken based on this success? Is it a gift?
It is necessary to ensure that success is the greatest reward. The gift to be given to children can be a book to read, a music CD to listen to, or going to a game or to watch a movie, all without a large financial cost. Appreciating and talking about the reasons for success can also be used as a reward. In cases where rewards are overdone, we see that children are trying to reach the gift they will receive at the end of success, not to succeed or learn. This situation is not a healthy motivating force for the student to endure the difficulties of the learning process.
Should the student whose report card is not good be punished?
It is difficult for the family to talk about the bad report card, but in fact, families are talking to each other. These are important opportunities that bring people closer together. It is very important to be able to talk about a poor report card without blaming, belittling, comparing or getting angry. Sitting down after dinner and investigating the reasons for the decrease in grades on the report card, without judging them, and finding solutions together will bring parents closer to their children. For example, the effects of TV watching hours, the frequency of accessing the internet, the role of the phone, sleep hours, whether they are repetitive or not, on this result can be discussed. Parents should be able to express in an appropriate tone that they are upset about his report card, but that this does not change the love he feels for him. In such a situation, the child will feel that if we have a problem or problem, we can talk about it as a family and overcome it. In the face of an accusatory, humiliating, comparing or angry approach, the child may feel that his family only loves him if he is successful and that he is no longer loved in the face of this failure.
Therefore, it is necessary to approach report cards as a tool to evaluate a period rather than giving rewards or punishments.
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