We tend to make some thinking mistakes when we are stressed. Since infertility treatment covers a very difficult and uncertain period, we cannot expect it not to cause stress. This being the case, our biggest duty is to try to keep the intensity of the stress we experience at a balanced level and to minimize its negative effects on our treatment.
The following are the thinking mistakes that couples experiencing infertility problems often fall into. If you have these thinking errors and they affect you at a high level, it would be beneficial for you to get psychological support at the center where you are treated.
Mental Filtering: Instead of all the doctors you go to saying about your situation, "You can have a child with treatment." We can give an example of this, when only one of them says "You can't have a child" and your trust in others suddenly disappears and all your motivation is broken by only thinking about what the doctor who spoke negatively to you said.
Reading the Future (Catastrophizing) : Predicting future events becomes a thinking error if it becomes certain in our minds. For example, if your previous in vitro fertilization treatment was unsuccessful, your strong belief that your next attempts will also result in the same way is a thinking error. Because it is almost impossible for us to predict what the future will bring.
Emotional Inference: Confusing feeling something with what actually happens. While we are in treatment, we have some feelings about the situation. These feelings are often independent of what actually happens. We believe that what we think and feel will definitely come true. Believing in your feelings so much can negatively affect you. Negative thoughts such as “I feel like something will go wrong this time” during the treatment will only make you feel depressed and demoralized during the process.
Ignore the Positive: Remember that infertility treatment is definitely a one-stage process. It is not a treatment that occurs. If you evaluate the treatment only based on the pregnancy result, this will reduce your motivation in future treatments in case of a negative result. gel can form. Try to go through this process with the knowledge that everything is gradual, from your first examination day to the transfer day. The presence of your egg or sperm to initiate the treatment, your response to the medications used, the egg collection process, fertilization process being successful, etc. Avoid focusing only on the result without seeing the stages such as. Otherwise, you may increase your stress by ignoring many positive things in your treatment.
Mind Reading: This thought error is an illusion that we all fall into most of the time. You enter the examination, your doctor looks sullen, and you immediately realize that there is something wrong with your condition. "There's definitely something bad going on, he's hiding it from me, he's saying this so I don't get upset" etc... etc. At that time, you may not think about the fact that your doctor may be upset that day, about a phone call he made before you, or about bad news he received from another patient. In this way, you will make a mistake in thinking, and examples like this may increase your stress in the long run.
Personalization: Seeing everything about ourselves. As a result of the treatment, it is said that the egg and sperm are fertilized well and the resulting embryo will be transferred. The transfer is over, that day has come. You learn that your result is negative. Then you take this whole situation to yourself. You make personalizations such as "So, something happened to me, the embryo couldn't hold on", "I have a flaw", "I'm depriving my partner of this feeling". This is a very strong and dangerous thought error. Whether the embryo attaches or not does not directly indicate that there is a problem with the uterus.
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