I would like to talk about the feeling of worthlessness
that most people feel from time to time in life and try to cope with it in different ways. When people feel worthless
, they give some defensive reactions and this creates an infrastructure
in their lives.
Experiencing this feeling often and not feeling worthless and insignificant
It can be a source of some pathological mental states.
Let's see what they said about this subject...
Some misunderstandings, misinterpretations or perceptions
can cause people to feel worthless. These can be momentary or
short-term or due to some environment. But that feeling becomes a basic
emotion and in most cases of life, if one feels this
and attains such a belief, then there are some underlying problems
.
Unworthiness People with a sense of belonging always evaluate the world, life and themselves with an erroneous perception. In the vital situations they encounter, this
perception comes into play automatically and the person is often not even
aware of it. However, this perception is effective in the general behavior of the person and how he/she will react
. Its foundation was laid in childhood, and with some experiences
this has settled down and has become a person's belief in himself. His
view of himself is wrongly placed. While exaggerating the superiority of others
he has increased his own worthlessness.
He always thinks that people find him worthless and always tries to find evidence in this direction
. He has learned to ignore his own feelings, wishes and needs most of the time
in relationships. Therefore,
is always the giver in relationships.
He believes that he does not deserve to be loved and respected. He submits, sacrificing himself
and constantly seeking approval. And as a result of trying to please everyone
he accumulates anger. Depressed shifts into an unhappy mood and becomes
prone to depression.
Loneliness, isolation, difficulty expressing emotions, make people turn into me. The satisfied
attitude can become a passive and alexithymic person who cannot express their preferences.
They have difficulty saying no. Fatigue, joylessness, restriction of freedom
and a state of insecurity begin to emerge.
In fact, she is content to be passive and avoids taking risks and always
wants to move in a safe harbor.
They usually have parents who put their own needs first. As children
they did not receive enough attention and love. They were snored, teased,
and disapproved as children. Or they are over-validated. They have had
parents who interfere with everything that doesn't let her
make her own decisions, or parents who are extremely disinterested.
They tend to downplay the positives and exaggerate the negatives,
have a disastrous habit, give more importance to logic than emotion
There is br /> and suppression of impulses.
They believe that other people make negative judgments about them
and they look for evidence to confirm this. They believe that there is nothing to love
about them, and they may be surprised
in situations where they are valued so much
that they do not know how to react
. Is it about your worth that other people
think you're worthless, or is it their faulty view
? Why do you judge yourself
according to how you find yourself in their view? Are other people's judgments always objective and
correct? Could it be related to your upbringing that you take other people's approaches and evaluations
so seriously? Could it be about how your parents
treated you? Could it be related to the attention and
that is not adequately satisfied?
Therefore, the person needs to question his relationship with himself and reprocess
. His perception and evaluation of himself is wrong.
The person whose body image is deteriorated always finds himself ugly. The person needs to activate this
evaluation and questioning the thought that judges him/her. Often times, this may be necessary in a
therapeutic setting that cannot be done alone.
Invaluation People with dominant emotions cannot trust their own judgments, and in any case they resort to the opinions of others
. They always ask other people. They neglect themselves to please other people
. As a result of their erroneous gaze, they can find
nothing to care about in themselves.
They ruthlessly criticize and judge themselves. I'm already nothing, I
I'm already a failure, whenever I've done a good thing, I'm unlucky, I
I'm poor, a lot of negative sentences echo in their heads. As a result of these
, they become tired, exhausted and unhappy.
Although they are prone to depression, they have more somatic complaints.
Indigestion problems, constipation, body aches, etc. Complaints are frequent.
Often these people cling to powerful people and chase after people who don't care about them
. In some cases, when there are people who care about them
, they get confused and walk away from them.
They can't be very aggressive, they believe that they have no right
to come anywhere, to have something. They belittle their successes and exaggerate their failures.
Some people develop narcissism in order to cope with these situations.
The belief that they think they are superior, beautiful, successful, important and so
continue to pretend to be worthless by continuing to take an arrogant attitude
They try to get rid of the br /> feeling, but they exaggerate this situation. They become selfish
, they adopt an attitude that compels everyone to serve them and puts them in the center
based only on their own wishes and expectations. These people are not well liked around, and their relationships are difficult and they are often abandoned
. In other words, although their feelings of worthlessness are the same,
they try to cope with this pain with the opposite attitude.
So there are two situations. Either those who find themselves worthless and move in that direction
or those who move in the opposite direction. In both cases, they are dysfunctional
and unhealthy conditions that make one's life difficult.
In both cases, one's relationship with the outside world and oneself with others
is impaired. First of all, his/her relationship and perception
should be corrected and treated.
Some people try to cope with this situation by being extremely altruistic, helpful and giving
to other people, but the reasons that cause this are business
and nothing done externally does not change this feeling
. Each time he needs more.
In addition to childhood traumas, faulty relationships, faulty approaches
, the feeling of worthlessness in parents passes on to the child.
Loving the child conditionally is what I say only if you behave. If you do,
if you are successful, I love you will cause him to develop worthlessness
. There is always a disapproving parent figure who doesn't like it, has high standards, disapproves
always wants more.
These people eventually find spouses who humiliate and disregard
abusive spouses. If they behave well and start caring
they may walk away too. This situation is not very familiar to them.
They think that this is not a valuable person
since you care about a worthless person like me. They seem to seek the
humiliating
attitudes that they are accustomed to, but most of the time
they are not aware of this situation and approach. They can't make connections within themselves.
They complain about the reactions they experience and the reactions they are exposed to, but this
situation makes them feel at home on the other hand.
That's why these people are usually narcissistic.
they chase after people who are condescending and submit to them.
This becomes a recurring fate in their lives.
They attract people who make them feel worthless. They get stuck with people who use
for themselves.
They try to feel valuable with situations such as office, position, economic power, workaholism, success, but they always have an unhappiness
inside them. They always feel as if one side is missing.
They haven't learned to relate to people otherwise. So they keep repeating the pattern they are used to
. To change this cycle
they need to undergo psychotherapy. So change their schema
give life to their lives, gain more life joy power
They also have complaints like this. Why do people like this always come and find me
and they don't realize that they are looking for them and find them.
Feeling worthless is a mistake and it is very important not to live your life with a mistake
. Others are not more valuable than you
. You think so. Others don't think you
worthless as you think. The mind that has been mistaken can change. You can change some of your habits, even if it's hard
. Tune in and walk away from those who underestimate you
. Put your attitude and make you feel valuable
. You can't change this
cycle without risking some of your relationships breaking down. Some people who devalue you may leave your life
, but if you adopt this habit, you will lead a more harmonious
life with yourself. See what I want, what actually makes me happy.
Get away from what the world says. No one can
make you feel worthless if you don't let them. The way other people treat you badly, it's about them
it's not about your worth. Look and change other people's judgments as to why
I exaggerate so much.
What you say to yourself matters. Money
power, position, etc. you have externally do not make you feel valuable professionally, and you can save yourself from this
delusion. Look a little more inward to understand your feelings
and there are clues as to why you are behaving the way you do.
These people tend to be addicted. They have low self-esteem,
beliefs about inadequacy and inability. Since I feel like this
it means I'm worthless, they refer to the situation as their own.
There can always be faulty thoughts behind the emotions experienced,
distorted thoughts can lie, that's why their emotions are so reference
It is unrealistic to do. It is important to remember that you always have the capacity to manage their emotions
.
I can offer the following advice to those who have feelings of worthlessness.
Don't try to be the best, don't try to get approval from everyone, don't be too altruistic
don't do it, don't try to look strong, learn to say no, question and
don't run away from emotion, deal with those who have mistreated you in the past
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