As it is known, the coronavirus (COVID-19) epidemic, which caused a crisis in the world, was declared a pandemic by the World Health Organization and countries have taken measures against the epidemic. Within the scope of these measures taken, including in our country, individuals have been advised to stay at home in order to prevent the spread of the epidemic.
Married couples, who are most affected by this process, are among these groups, as psychological problems also occur during the pandemic process, in addition to affecting physiological health. taking. Problems such as difficulty in tolerating each other, arguing and blaming may increase in couples who are left alone for a long time with the epidemic.
In this process, couples should turn to hobbies that they did not have the opportunity to do due to their busy work lives before this period and focus on activities where they can have a pleasant time. It would be healthier for them to focus on activities that can be done together instead of watching stressful epidemic news on TV. These can be movies, TV series, various games. In addition, do not spend all your time at home with your spouse, have your own space, and do not forget to make time for yourself.
The awareness brought by this process can affect couples in two ways.
While it encourages some couples to get closer to each other and spend more enjoyable and quality time, on the other hand, some couples Being alone together for a long time can turn into chaos. In fact, this process is a period that allows spouses to understand and get to know each other better. What is important here is about how we perceive the process.
Every problem is actually an opportunity. It's up to you how you use this opportunity. In problematic marriages, spouses may prefer to avoid the problem rather than solving it. So what should we do?
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In case of any problem, it will be more beneficial for couples to be aware of the problem and try to solve it.
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As an important issue, although fighting is sometimes perceived as a problem for couples, arguments are actually something that is necessary and necessary for a relationship. Don't be afraid to argue. The main thing here is to manage the discussion well.
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To be able to communicate correctly and use I language. If we briefly touch on the "I" language, it means that individuals openly express their personal thoughts without reacting emotionally and without blaming the other individual. Using the I language can be very productive, especially during this period when anxiety is intense.
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Avoid being accusatory towards your partner in an argument. Because accusatory speech increases the tension even more and the incident can become even more inextricable. To sum up;
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Stay away from behaviors and statements that will disrupt communication.
One should accept that the problem can occur in every period and in every marriage and use problem-solving skills correctly in the face of the problem.
SHOULD A DIVORCE DECISION BE MADE?
During the discussion, the couple should not act impulsively, should be common sense in this regard, try to maintain their calm, and remind themselves that this process is temporary. Important decisions such as divorce and separation should not be taken in these and similar times when periodic stress and turmoil prevail.
In marriage, say 'we', not 'I'! The point is to manage to be us while preserving the boundaries of the Self. In other words, a healthy relationship is one in which each couple can experience a strong sense of both individuality and belonging.
To all my readers, I wish you a long-lasting love. He wishes them to have a permanent and healthy relationship. I wish you healthy days.
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