We often hear expressions such as "My child is very stubborn." Shouldn't we also look to see if it's just the child who is stubborn? The moment of stubbornness is the situation of conflict. What we call conflict is a difference of opinion. We want to never have conflicts with our children, spouses, or friends; On the other hand, let him think differently, develop and develop. So, what diet is this, what sauerkraut?
Conflicts will occur in every period of our lives, things will be better when we learn to enjoy it. We can start by accepting that thinking differently and experiencing conflict is normal and should be evolving. I am different, he is different; By saying that we both think differently…
Let's try a new method in conflict resolution. While imagining a world where there is no competition, let's imagine that there are no losers and try to overcome conflicts with the win-win method.
We are experiencing a situation of conflict and stubbornness;
Let's realize this first. We can invite the child to this awareness by saying, "Yes, we have a conflict here."
We can summarize the situation at that moment with expressions such as "You want... and I want... for... reasons."
"We will both be happy Can you think of a solution?” By saying this, we can observe the child's problem-solving skills that we have not taken into account.
In the win-win method, how do we proceed if the child does not put forward an idea, or how can we proceed if he does not really have an idea? Is it possible? Certainly. It is important to find the right time and prepare the right environment. If the child does not really want to participate in problem solving (this may be possible with many different emotions), we can postpone it to a more appropriate time. If he cannot think of a solution, we can offer suggestions to set an example and convey our own alternatives. This action can shed light on the child and make him/her think of other solutions. By listing all the solutions, we can decide on the most appropriate solution, explain the application method and see whether it works.
To sum up;
Conflict is defined.
Various solutions are produced.
Proposed solutions are discussed. p>
What is it for?
The child feels valuable and useful, his self-confidence improves, his problem-solving skills develop...
Win The win-win method is a method that we can use with appropriate expressions not only in the parent-child relationship, but in every relationship. Let's try, we will see that our earnings increase.
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