I want to belong to the world…
The person who said this said it to emphasize that he did not want to belong, but wanted to be free. As a matter of fact, belonging to the world actually indicates belonging. If there is, it is because of the need to differentiate itself from aliens, other living things or non-living things in the universe, and extraterrestrial concepts. Even though it covers a wide range, it includes a sense of belonging.
When we look at the sense of belonging within the framework of attachment theory, it is seen that it goes back to infancy and attachment with the mother, and that the basis is the bonding period with the mother (0-2) years of age. Secure attachment develops if the mother breastfeeds the baby and meets its needs at the maximum level. Later, the child gradually breaks away from the mother and develops different attachments. To father, aunt, neighbor etc. A child who gets through this period in a healthy way develops a sense of belonging when he reaches the age of 7-14. It develops a sense of belonging with places and people with which it feels comfortable.
When we look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, again supporting the perspective of attachment theory, first comes the need for trust and physiological needs, that is, the care of the mother, and then the need for love and belonging. No matter which way we look at it, humans need a sense of belonging.
The difference here for the individual who constantly tries to live with a sense of belonging during adolescence and adulthood is no longer commitment, but an action that rises on the basis of volunteerism and aims to meet the need for trust. It is a feeling that activates mutual responsibility between the one who belongs and the one to whom he belongs. In other words, the person becomes a part of a whole with common values through belonging, and from there the need for trust is met.
The more the attachment is damaged, the more the child loses his sense of belonging. Those who do not belong cannot leave their mothers because they are not strong. As a result, they take on a structure called “asocial” or “savage”.
When we express ourselves when we meet someone, our profession, where we are from, how old we are, our religion, our language, our race, our social our ties etc. These are concepts that are asked for introduction or expressed without being asked. The social groups to which a person belongs, profession, etc., become a part of the person's identity over time. It happens. With belonging, it enables the person to establish similarities with others and to express his/her difference from the other excluded group within the framework of confidence. Because the individual needs a group with which he can share common ground, integrate, unite and trust, as well as a counter group in which he can feel valuable and unique despite the differences. When we support a football team, we integrate with them and experience the feeling of being different from others. The place where being similar and being different meet is the sense of belonging.
The soul emerges with a slow and dark birth, more mysterious than the birth of the body. When a person's soul is born in this country, there are networks around it that prevent it from flying…
Stay with love and belonging…
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