Relationships vary on a scale from safe to violent, depending on how partners treat each other. If the violence encountered in the relationship is physical, it is easy to understand this. However, it is not always easy to make sense of psychological, emotional and sexual violent behaviors.
Humiliation, making people feel guilty, isolation, deprivation, threat, intimidation, persistent follow-up, etc. Behaviors such as these are the most common violent behaviors observed in the relationships of young people, especially between the ages of 16 and 24.
In order for young people to protect themselves from such behaviors in dating relationships, adults' perspectives must first change. If parents and adults want to protect their relatives, children and siblings from dating violence; One should not put pressure on young people by thinking that the relationship between them is not appropriate. One should avoid assuming that relationships between young people are immature, saying that they will understand only when they become adults, and taking the initiative on their behalf and assuming the role of savior. One should not force young people to leave by projecting their personal value judgments or negative experiences about relationships onto young people, anticipating that they will also experience negativities.
Such restrictive and prejudiced parental behavior causes young people to keep their relationships secret. It becomes difficult to understand whether the hidden relationship is safe or not, to recognize violent behavior and to protect the young person. Instead, adults should create a space where they can be open and honest, according to the developmental characteristics of the young person. One should not only talk about the risks and negativities in the relationship, but also talk about how to have a safe relationship. He/she should share empowering and positive examples with them that will support them in creating healthy boundaries.
Violence; It is a difficult and confusing experience for most people, young and adult. Recognizing the warning signals of violence and catching the clues of violence are of great importance to protect ourselves from violence. Parents and adults need to inform young people about this issue, first recognize these signals and explain them to their children and make them notice them.
Safe relationship; decisions It is a fair and free relationship in which sexual intercourse is taken as common and there are shared feelings on relationship-related issues and sexuality.
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