“Which emotion/feeling would you like to control most?” I tried to ask the question on many platforms and in conversations I came across. Generally, "where did this question come from?" I received feedback that along with awareness, "sadness", "tearfulness", "emotionality", "anger", "impatience" and similar emotions and thoughts were wanted to be "changed" and "controlled". My aim was to create a public opinion and to finalize my article accordingly. That's why I would like to thank everyone who responded sincerely and based on our privacy policy.
Control can be summarized as an auditing ability that maintains integrity and determines boundaries. If many events happening around us (in the outside world) are within our control set, we can intervene directly or indirectly and bring it to a new form "under our control". It's like turning off a program we don't like. It's like listening to a song we like. It's like ordering the food we want.
I can give you this news that unfortunately, this control ability that puts us in a managerial position in our environment, which helps us in making plans, arranging our lives, and making decisions for the past, present and future, is unfortunately not so much on thoughts and emotions. it does not work. Research shows that the human brain produces, processes and pushes into the background between 20,000 and 80,000 thoughts and thousands of emotions related to them a day.
So, how can it "stop" only some of these thoughts in this flow and control them? We try to "do", "cope", "not think about", "handle". Of course, according to many schools of thought, the things we try to "stop" or "send quickly" have a connection with us. Additionally, there are many explanations for what is happening in recent therapies. To mention some of these:
*Allowing limited freedom to oneself.
*Not knowing any other way or method other than controlling.
*Nothing other than "happiness". accepting the existence of an emotion and thought as "unusual".
*The misconception that "trying not to think" and "not accepting" eliminates the problems experienced.
Of course, these are just a few. .
A little note: Don't get me wrong, it's not like we can't control everything that happens. However, we can only control some of it, and if we apply it at the right points, it seems much more possible to make what happens more meaningful and colorful.
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