Silence and withdrawal resulting from lack of communication can turn even a tiny problem into an avalanche over time. There may be situations where one side is more dominant and embellishes the sentences better. When you defend yourself, you may think that this is not enough. Then it is necessary to look back. Why and how did this situation arise? Are there many periods in your relationship when you remain silent to avoid prolonging the argument, or are you too tolerant towards your partner?
It is quite normal to have differences of opinion from time to time in relationships. Because every person is unique and special. The family, culture and society in which a person grows up form the basis of a person, and over time, two different people come together and sow the seeds of a relationship. It is not possible for them to look at every point from the same perspective. Just as too many arguments are tiring, not arguing at all in relationships is also a question mark that needs to be taken into consideration.
Directly blaming the partner in any event or displaying a generalizing attitude such as "you've always been like this" at that moment. It may help you reflect your anger outside, but it is inevitable that this may cause greater damage later.
Do not consider yourself right in every situation!
From time to time, a person tries to prove that he is right. It blocks the path of discussion so much that the other party cannot stop themselves from saying 'how did we come to this issue?' At this point, you take a different path, independent of the subject at hand, and you reduce communication to almost non-existent.
Shutting down or ignoring an attitude or behavior that you do not like is among the factors that create another communication problem. Because be sure that every problem you put into your mind will emerge in no time. This situation makes both you and the other party angry. Therefore, do not hesitate to convey the issue you are having trouble with to your partner in an understandable way. Throwing in thoughts that contradict your value judgments does not bring anything healthy to the relationship, on the contrary, it makes you angry and affects the relationship and communication power very negatively.
The relationship is not an ego war. That's why you have to be protective and defensive when the other person criticizes you. or engaging in comparisons are among the reasons that wear out the relationship.
Don't forget to empathize!
Establishing empathy offers you different doors in every aspect of life and in other contexts. Allows you to review the incident. Understanding why the other party treats you this way or why they say those words, looking at the situation from their perspective, may extinguish the flames of an argument that grows like an avalanche.
Although it may seem cliché, respecting differences of opinion is extremely important for the dynamics of the relationship. It is an important situation. Approving everything that is said just because your partner is constantly yelling, getting angry or angry causes the person to see himself as passive and is the main source of question marks about the relationship.
If you cannot express yourself adequately to the other party and quarrels occur every day. What should you do if it is getting bigger and bigger?
If you think that you have tried every way and still cannot express yourself to the other party and the problems have not been resolved, first stop and listen to yourself spiritually. Because sometimes a relationship and communication that is in chaos may not be resolved no matter what you do. Every path you take with the idea of saving yourself can drag your relationship to different dimensions. It may cause other problems. Because at this point, unfortunately, healthy communication is about to disappear.
Support from friends and family is a very important factor, but guidance may not always produce healthy results. As I said at the beginning of my article, every person is unique and their reactions to every event are different. Having a close friend guide you based on their own relationship may not work, on the contrary, it may trigger further complexity.
First of all, you do not have to be at the end of the road to get couple/family counseling. As in all areas of life, it will be very healthy for both you and your partner to get support early on, to clear the blocked roads and resolve them. An expert therapist will help you make healthy decisions by taking a neutral approach to both parties and using therapy-specific methods.
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