Anxiety about the future / endless controlling and stealing the role of God
We constantly create many scenarios, hypotheses, and if necessary theories, in order to plan the future and bring it to a more functional dimension. Although these hypotheses or theories do not lead us to the fully objective truth about our lives, they bring us closer to the truth. Thanks to this foresight ability in humans, we can take our lives towards the goals we want and thus have the opportunity to live our lives in the direction we want.
Anxiety about the future, endless controlling, stealing the role of God
These plans, combined with a great foresight ability, are invincible. We can achieve more by designing and controlling more futures. The example is success…
- So why do we really want to be so successful?
- What can we achieve by being successful?
- What happens if we fail?
- Who/who suffers from failure?
- Which group will we be in when we succeed? Which group will we be in when we fail?
How do the answers to these questions make us feel?
As long as we are more successful in our lives, we will be more accepted, approved and loved. A status will be assigned to you by society, and we will be able to continue our life with a partner of our choice. Our risk of facing any possible problems will be reduced or eliminated. We will be happy when we have everything under control, we will not be uneasy... it will, it will, it will....
We have internalized these -will, will, will, sentence structures so much that when they are not in our lives, our life feels like a disaster. It feels like it's finished with a script. In order to avoid this catastrophic situation, we tend to control everything and everyone, including the future, as an avoidance behavior. This reaches such an advanced stage in some of us that we have beliefs that all future events will result in a negative scenario, under the name of prediction and foresight. The desire to control the situation and the future becomes so great that we steal the role of God. We try to control everything like God. We take on a load beyond our capacity. bear this burden Because we cannot cope, we often perform below our capacity and have problems reaching the point we want in our lives. In short, the paradox that "What we smell creates what we fear" is activated at this point.
We can say that when we give up excessive control in our lives, we will achieve a freer way of thinking. Having more flexible rules and thoughts about ourselves, others and the future allows us to have a more flexible life. This allows you to enjoy life and have fun while doing business in our lives. We create more options with our future, we integrate options that have multiple consequences in our future plan into our lives, and we tolerate their consequences more easily. Too much control prevents us from realizing ourselves as a lifestyle that prevents us from enjoying experiences.
Focusing on the "here and now" in our lives allows us to discover your talents. It is important to analyze the past and plan the future in order to realize and activate ourselves, to get more pleasure from "here and now" and to have a quality life. We do these to spend the "here and now" in a better quality way. When we turn planning and predicting the future into a form of controlling the future, we miss a large part of our lives by missing the "here and now".
While planning the future, we have the option of not living it, other people like us and nature have a direct and indirect say in our lives. It should be taken into consideration that our strict planning will be sabotaged by nature / fate and other people while implementing their own plans.
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