In mythology literature; “Andromeda is the daughter of Kepheus, King of Aithiopia, and Kassiepeia. Andromeda's beautiful and arrogant mother, Kassiepeia, was complained to the Sea God Poseidon by the Nereus daughters because she boasted that she was more beautiful than all the Nereus daughters. Thereupon, God sent a terrible dragon to Aithiopia and caused chaos in the whole country. The king, who wanted to get rid of the bad situation he was in and consulted the oracle, learned that the only solution was to sacrifice his daughter to the dragon. His desperation and being forced by the people caused the king to tie his daughter to a rock to be eaten by the dragon. However, just as the monster was about to tear Andromeda apart, Perseus, who was traveling in the sky on Pegasus (winged horse), landed on the ground and killed the monster Gorgo. Perseus, who saw the beautiful Andromeda tied to the rock, fell in love with her and married her with the permission of the king. Although Phineus, who was friendly with Andromeda and was also her uncle, gathered his men and attacked Perseus on the wedding night, Perseus, who held Gorgo's head towards them, with his men. were turned into stone together. As a result of all this, Andromeda spent a long and happy life with Perseus, who freed her from all her bonds and powers.”
As seen in mythological literature, Perseus comes and saves Andromeda with his flying horse and they spend a long, happy life. There are similar results in the Cinderella story; A prince who saves himself from the bad life of the princess, who was born as a king's daughter, after her difficult life story with her stepmother and stepsisters, and a happy ending.
Andromeda, also known as Cinderella complex, is in the psychology literature; It is used to describe the first man she meets to get rid of the difficult conditions she is in and the responsibilities that tire her, and women who dream of spending the rest of their lives happily. The fact that a woman is completely emotionally, intellectually and behaviorally dependent on a man stems from her fear of independence, and Collette Dowling defined this situation as the "Cinderella Complex".
Andromeda&Cinderella Complex Due to the effect of the fairy tales listened to, the perception that girls need protection, and the more protective/protective attitude of parents towards girls, the girl may not actively participate in the responsibilities related to her own life, saying "Somehow, there is someone who will help and think about me instead of me." The roles given to the girl child from the moment she is born, taking her own parental relationships as a model, giving her parents the job of meeting her own needs by taking care of them very much and meeting her needs, the child may not want to break away from the parent-child relationship that he maintains dependently, and he may look for traces of this relationship in his adult life, which he sees as a safe environment. Can develop a dependent relationship with the person.
In addition, not getting enough coverage from their parents, pressure at home, and the relationship with the father preventing independence may create the perception that marriage is an escape and salvation. This situation may cause a person to think that having a partner to lean on will save his life and is the key to a happy relationship.
Women with this complex; Even though they dream of a happy marriage and a beautiful future, they expect their prince charming to be their savior instead of fighting the difficulties they face alone. These people, who are generally afraid of individualization, seek a sense of trust and belonging, and avoid liberation because they do not want to take responsibility. After a while, this situation can lead to dependence on the other party, a relationship that is governed by limits set by someone else instead of a happy relationship, decreased and restricted life satisfaction, and psychological distress.
Instead of living your whole life in a relationship dependent on a man, afraid of being independent, actively participating in decisions, taking the responsibility that life brings, and gaining freedom within yourself are important in order to overcome the Cinderella complex.
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