Mom! I'm 0-1 years old. Don't make me wait too long!… Don't give it to me even if I don't want it!….
Do you want to sit in the corner and always have someone around you to serve you? Can't stop eating even though you don't feel hungry? Do you feel happy and enjoy the more you eat, as if you came to life to eat? Do you always want to have something in your mouth? Is obesity a problem you can't solve? Are you using cigarettes as a pacifier? Do you put objects such as pens in your mouth and gnaw them without realizing it? Do you frequently spit and swear? To the person you love or are angry with, “I will eat you!”, “I will bite you!” Do you use expressions like? Is oral sex your priority over other sexual exchanges? Do you like licking and feel like you are eating something delicious while having oral sex? Do you like kissing very much? Do you always expect your needs to be met by others, with childish actions and childish spoils?
If most of your answers to these questions are "yes", you may be stuck in the oral stage!
It is wrong to define Freud as the father of psychology. Impossible. Throughout his life, he tried to explain the developmental stages of human spiritual structure with numerous theories, thus shedding light on the darkness in this field.
Freud put forward the "existence of the abstract mental apparatus" only as a hypothesis; He did not conduct any observational or experimental studies to confirm these hypotheses.
In his “topographic theory”; preconscious, conscious and unconscious in his “structural theory”; id, ego, superego in his "developmental theory"; He defined oral, anal, phallic, latent and adolescence periods.
After Freud, many people put forward different hypotheses about the developmental stages of the human psychological structure. The most important among these is the "developmental theory", in which Freud defines the oral, anal, phallic, latent and adolescence periods. In his developmental theory, Freud detailed the characteristics of psychosexual development according to age groups.
Oral period; According to developmental theory, it is limited to the age range of 0-1.
Human babies are born with the instinct of sucking. The corner of his mouth has been touched since the moment he was born. When it touches itself, it wants to suck the object that touches it by turning its lips towards that side. The sucking reflex is one of the most basic reflexes that exists from birth. Sucking is vital. In this way, the baby reaches the nutrients it needs to survive. While breastfeeding, the baby feels intense pleasure, both from sucking and from simultaneous satiety.
Over time, he realizes that this pleasure is a self-soothing feeling, and wants to suckle when he is hungry or needs soothing for any other reason. The feeling of relaxation felt through the object reached through the mouth by sucking is called "oral pleasure". In the first year of life, pleasure is in the oral region.
The oral period child lives like a "God" between the ages of 0-1. He is fed when he cries because he is hungry, he is cleaned when he cries because his diaper is dirty, he is walked when he is distressed, and since he cannot talk or walk during this period, everything he needs is met by someone else. He necessarily expresses all his needs by "crying". The child of this period cannot actively participate in actions and is passive. Feelings of “deservedness” are high. He lies down, sits down, everything and everyone revolves around him. They are fed, cleaned and loved.
In this exact period, individuals who cannot complete the oral period healthily due to mistakes made in baby care continue to show similar oral character traits in adulthood.
According to the theory, There are basically two behavioral pattern errors that can cause getting stuck in the oral period;
One is; These are situations where the baby's needs are kept waiting, postponed or not noticed. For example, if the baby's hunger periods are too long and he is not fed on time; If the diaper is not changed even though it bothers the bottom a lot; If pain due to gas complaints cannot be relieved; Even though he needed to sleep, he was in uncomfortable environments due to his parents' needs; If the parent cannot be empathetic and understand all of his/her needs; The baby's "need for comfort" increases greatly in later development and life stages. If he cannot be relieved, he will become a child or adult with high tension, restlessness, a high sense of aggression, grumpy, constantly mumbling and crying, and who cannot be comfortable and happy in any environment. This person actually still needs it in the oral period. It is a baby whose needs are not met.
The other behavioral error is; It is the ability to meet the baby's needs before they even demand it, and to satisfy more than it needs. This baby put the breast to his mouth because feeding time came before he felt hungry; his diaper was changed without disturbing his bottom; He is an overfed child whose every need has been taken into account by his mother/caregiver and whose comfort has never been compromised. This situation makes the baby feel great power, happiness and pleasure.
The correct behavior pattern is; After the baby realizes and expresses his needs, it is quickly understood by the parent, his needs are met without the baby getting into trouble, and an explanation is made to the baby by speaking in a soft tone during the waiting period until it is met. In this way, the baby feels that he is cared for and is helped to calm his restlessness with empathic behavior.
If the person is stuck in the oral period, when he encounters troublesome situations throughout his life, he either tries to meet the needs that were not satisfied enough at that time or the most beautiful thing he experienced in his infancy. In order to regain that pleasure and happiness in those periods and to relax, the person will turn to oral objects and oral pleasure.
If the person's psychosexual development is stuck in the oral period, behavioral characteristics; It looks like a 0-1 year old baby. He does not want to get up from where he is sitting, he wants his water, food and tea to be made and served to him by someone else. He sits in the corner, crosses his legs, lies down, does not get up for hours, and the people around him constantly carry things for him. He is always passive, he wants someone else to handle his affairs. He whines constantly, like a baby crying, to get his responsibilities and needs fulfilled. He quickly feels helpless, without a solution, and the need for support from another is inevitable. He is very helpless, he seems like he can't do anything, he doesn't know. Of course, he doesn't do any of this by planning. He really feels that helplessness inside and is in a situation that is very difficult to understand from the outside.
He sits in the corner, there are always people around him who serve him, he waits for all his needs to be met without getting up, he gets upset because his tea is five minutes late, he refuses to eat. can't give up, as if he came to life to eat, gets happy and enjoys the more he eats, eats Can't keep his mouth idle, has moved towards obesity, keeps cigarettes from his mouth like a pacifier, puts objects like pens in his mouth without realizing it, gnaws them, spits a lot, swears a lot, uses expressions such as "I'll eat you" and "I'll bite you" involving his mouth, both when he loves and when he's angry. enjoys being the person who performs oral sex, enjoys licking, feels like eating something delicious while having oral sex, loves to kiss very much, wants to kiss frequently, always expects his needs to be met by someone else with childish movements and spoiled behavior, and if not done, does not do it himself and even gets what he needs. People who even give up and say, "I'll do it later, I have other things to do now!"
I wonder if you might be stuck in the oral period?
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