Humankind's effort to know and understand itself continues throughout the ages. As a result of this search for knowledge and understanding, the only thing he constantly searches for is the concept of "I".
What will I be? Where did I come from? Where am I going?
He then interacts with people and takes another step in his effort to find himself.
But while taking these steps, he cannot take very solid steps. When a person says he has found himself completely, he is not even halfway there...
He continues this search for finding and understanding with the optical illusion we call love.
Yes, optical illusion, you read it right. !
Because what we call love is the totality of the characteristics we want to see in others. Therefore, love has taken the name of love because it is completely holistic.
I can define love like this.
A woman looks for the masculine features she wants to see in herself, in the other person. For men, it is an effort to know and understand their feminine side, which is the exact opposite. I can say that it is completely and flawlessly.
If you notice, we see a subtle selfishness here again.
So why do we want to see the "Me" that we want to see?
'Because man is a wolf to man', said Hobbes.
Basically, the thing that disturbs a person the most is that of the other person. In fact, it is similar to himself. This gives people pain and fear. Because he doesn't want to see an individual as cruel as himself. A person cannot accept this situation and tries to get away from there as soon as possible. In fact, there are norms that we all know in social society.
They say, "You are both the same character, that's why you can't get along."
This situation is "contrary to the chemistry of love." It is thought that.
The fact that in my many articles and essays I have written are all about the memories I have seen and experienced in my life, I think this is the reason why it binds me so much to you and you to me.
Now, I would like to give some information about the duration of love.
Again, it is the result of my clinical observations. At the end of the time spent after meeting, meeting and being together, as I said at the beginning, optical illusion (love) I'm sorry, it only lasted 6 months. It ends after a short while.
Does this process work like this for everyone?
Trust, sincerity and love come into play with the endorphin hormone secreted in the next process.
In fact, our togetherness now revolves around this triangle. .
The bad news is;
Love is over. You are no longer in love.
Our next hormone is oxytocin. With this hormone, trust and loyalty, which are the biggest problems in today's relationships and which I have included in many of my articles, come into play.
Let me speak to the parliament then.
In some people, this hormone is never even secreted. Let alone being secreted, it is not even close to being secreted.
Oxytocin hormone is not secreted only in couples or lovers. This hormone is also important for the mother's trust and loyalty towards her child.
I especially want to underline this with a red pen. At this point, the secure attachment of the child to the mother is very important.
As I talk about the chemistry of love and the psychology of love, I am ending here before writing some of what I will write to you.
Hope you have a life in which the love hormone is abundantly secreted, stay with love...
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