Summer holidays are an important opportunity for many families to visit their elders. Especially short holidays out of town not only offer our children good times to spend with their elders and relatives, but also give our parents the chance to escape from the busy school and work environment, even if only for a short time. Especially in our country, during such holidays, many members of the family living in different cities due to business life come together and have the opportunity to live in the same house, even for a few days. Uncles, grandparents and cousins have the chance to get to know each other closely and spend time together, even if only for a short time. When most of us think of our childhood, we always remember such times as happy moments. Of course, I think that family members being together during such long holidays is very important for the development of many moral values such as knowing our culture, respecting elders and sharing. However, when we look from our children's eyes, do such family meetings always bring happiness?
At this point, there may be some difficulties for our children and families. I think that children who have problems with self-confidence, care too much about social stimuli, are fragile and anxious are more affected by such meetings. Attitudes that amount to comparisons, especially among cousins, expressed by family elders based on report card grades are traumatic for children. Criticisms brought by family members, willingly or unintentionally, increase the stress level of children and push them to exhibit different behaviors. These criticisms often arise from the tendency of family elders to continue their conflicts through children. The urge to compare or compete between the children of two siblings actually affects the children who are not even remotely involved in that conflict in a negative way.
Another problem of Long Holidays is the changes in the house rules. Our child's bedtime and wake-up times, meal times and play times will inevitably change while he is on vacation. Especially children living in two different families, especially cousins, may compare rules and even criticize their own families. Also, family elders are involved in the “ When the guarantee of "leave the child alone during the holiday anyway" comes, rules and boundaries inevitably loosen for every child. Even if our families relax the rules a little here, they should not miss the knob of the scale and set the red lines. If we do not want to have nightmares after the holiday, we need to remind both our child and the family elders about their limits.
As a result, holidays that bring all family members together are very important for both the spiritual and moral development of our children. It is a blessing in terms of the development of spiritual values, relatives relations, cooperation and sharing. Especially if these holidays are taken away from city life to the countryside, they put unforgettable photos in the child's memory and act as an internal therapy. By taking small precautions and maintaining control, we can continue good traditions and prevent unpleasant events that may occur.
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