We are tired, aren't we? Our minds are full, our hearts are anxious, our attention is scattered... Our eyes are on the messages coming from social media every minute, our minds are on our loved ones, our attention is on our throat, which we check 20 times a day to see if it's starting to hurt a little...
Take a deep breath now...
Of course, I will not give you information about this epidemic, anyway, corona is in front of us, behind us, right and left! Let's talk about other things with you today...
Yes, you are right to be worried about what will happen, what kind of days are ahead of us. Rest assured, right now a medical army is fighting on the front lines of this war - for all of you, for all of us... So what can you do then? First of all, let's start the day by being grateful if you have the "chance to stay at home".
You know, we were always busy and we used to say, "If I only had 1 month, if I never left the house, if I did all my accumulated work, if I could sort out the pictures." , I wish I could read some books, watch a good movie… But where is that chance, I don't understand how the days go by considering home, work, children's school, course, etc!”
There! The opportunity has come to you!
But it doesn't work, does it? Even though you are at home all day, you do not understand what happens at night, and you cannot even spend as much time as you want with your spouse and children with whom you are at home. So how does this happen, how does time slip through your hands?
Are you aware that even though we are going through very difficult days, each day is actually a day that decreases from our lives. I'm not saying this to make you worry more, just "let's notice" - let's notice and shake it off together! Take a moment and look at your home. If it weren't for the mobile phones in our hands, wouldn't every day be like a Sunday straight out of the 90s? You know, every day was like a Sunday in the years when there were no shopping malls to go to and we would sit down as a family in the evenings, eat fruit and watch family TV series. In these days when each of us has started to live in our own separate world, we have become unable to do anything in common other than sleeping under the same roof, and we often miss living our own lives while watching completely different lives from the phones in our hands, the family has to stay at home. Do you think bananas are a disaster or a divine sign?
Then let's turn this necessary process into a great opportunity! I hope you are not expecting an article like "The 10 best activities to do with children at home" from me. You can find those suggestions in many places. I assume that you all have smart children and they go to sleep at 21:00 (once upon a time, the female character in the Yalan Rüzgarı TV series - I think her name was Nicky - had a very smart daughter who said "good night, mommy" every evening at 8:00 She would retire to her room, I spent my entire childhood hating that girl, with my mothers saying "look what smart kids there are!").
Yes, what was I saying? These days, our spouse and lover, who have to breathe together 24 hours a day in 120 square meters, begin to appear to us as an object that does not even lift its feet while vacuuming the house, be careful! Alarm bells have started to ring, which means we need to do something urgently!
So, how will we revive our love in the "corona days"?
Let's get started!
Hug each other often
Touching and hugging have a healing power. Watching a movie by leaning on your partner's shoulder, hugging and giving a warm kiss to your partner while he or she is busy with something in the kitchen will cause the secretion of plenty of endorphins and serotonin in your body, and these hormones are one of the most important factors in strengthening immunity - 2 birds with 1 stone. If you say, "There are children at home, how should we hug and kiss in front of them?", you will destroy this false myth in the process. When our children witness their parents hugging and giving each other innocent kisses, they not only feel happy, but also have the chance to model a healthy relationship between men and women. Children who grow up in a home where there is love, affection and peace are happy children and they will establish relationships that will be happy in the future, remember this.
Remember "those first days" when calling each other!
From “My life, my love, my love” to “Ahmet!!! You messed up the kitchen again and left your glass in the living room, I'm fed up!” Can we remember when we came to this point? It's okay if we can't remember, fortunately, I will now tell you how we can go back to the past. Tolerance is one of the most important building blocks of a relationship, but for some unknown reason, we first lose this beautiful feeling towards our loved ones. Our loved ones suddenly become the target of the most brutal criticism and hurtful words that we cannot say to anyone. And if we hide ourselves with an excuse such as "people hurt the ones they love the most", they are not comfortable with us! However, what we hear from our spouse breaks our hearts the most. Then let's go back to those early days and let the words of love begin to flow from our tongues. You will see that when you start talking to each other with loving words again, you will have a harder time getting angry, you will have more tolerance, and you will warm your heart more easily with warm words.
Go to bed at the same time.
Trust me, nothing will change when you watch more news and learn more about the latest patient numbers of the country! There is nothing you can do better and more beneficial than "staying at home" and trying to enjoy these days, after listening to and internalizing from reliable sources a few times what you need to do for yourself, how to protect yourself, what to pay attention to. Now calmly put down the remote control and mobile phone in your hand. Make your way to your bedroom with your partner at a reasonable hour (sleeping too late at night has serious negative effects on immunity). Dim lights, relaxing music, a nice conversation... It's been a long time since we've done these, hasn't it? Chatting with each other will be a good opportunity for you to remember why you love your spouse so much. (as long as you don't bring up the subject of whose mother you will stay longer next Eid!)
I said chat, but you can't always chat - try talking to your bodies instead of words
Let's see. What do they want to say to each other? I wrote in detail what you can do to revitalize your sexual life in my previous article (Marriage kills love, what about sexuality?). Today is the right day to implement what I wrote! A more suitable time to increase our frequency of sexual intercourse Could it be? More sex, more endorphins; More orgasm means more oxytocin! Well; You will not only manage to keep your mind away from anxious thoughts, but you will also increase your immunity. I say this not based on assumptions, but based on scientific studies. It has been scientifically proven that sexual intercourse increases immunity by causing an increase in immune cells in the body. I think this is a great reason to make love more often these days!
Don't wait for the night to have little flings
Calmly put down the bottle of bleach in your hand and have a small one in the middle of the day. Let your partner hug you for a getaway. Bleach doesn't escape, does it? After all, you have a long, long time to continue cleaning! Exciting close encounters during the day and a loving kiss that starts unexpectedly can make you experience a more pleasurable relationship than ever before. It is always good to surprise both the mind and the body!
Take care of yourself and each other
Yes, most of us are at home, but just because we are at home, we wear pajamas and messy clothes all day long. We're not going to walk around with hair! Of course, the same goes for men - it might be a good idea to bleach a man who has tangled hair and beard and has been wearing the same t-shirt for 3 days! Jokes aside, it is beneficial for both ourselves and our spouse to be clean and well-groomed when we are at home. It is an undeniable fact that when we take care of ourselves, we feel better and happier. It is extremely important to continue our daily routines in order to get through these days in a healthy way, both physically and mentally, without falling into sick psychology.
Move and laugh a lot!
I have a great suggestion for you that will get you moving! Guess what? Oh no, not cleaning! If you remember, in the 5th article, we gently put the bleach on the ground! What could be better than a pleasurable relationship to exercise your muscles these days when we are stuck between four walls?
And laughter! One of the most contagious things in this world is undoubtedly a big laugh; with coronavirus Perhaps our most powerful weapon that can compete with contagion!
Love and hope are what will keep us standing tall in these difficult days...
Hoping to leave these days behind as soon as possible...
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Stay with love in the days of Corona
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