Marriage is a process of healthy communication and interaction. In order for a harmonious marriage to exist, there must be healthy communication. Spouses should be enabled to interact so that they can verbally express their expectations and messages from each other. Since the effective factor of communication involves spouses opening up to each other, being together, and exchanging ideas, communication determines the quality of marriage. Since lack of communication between spouses is thought to harm marriage, it seems that a harmonious marriage is possible with healthy communication. It is common for couples to experience problems in their married lives as a result of not knowing their conflict-resolution styles. It is possible for spouses to have a harmonious and long-term marriage as a result of healthy communication using conflict-resolution styles.
Kelly and Markman (1997) define marital harmony as having positive feelings and thoughts about the spouses' relationships, being able to communicate positively, It is defined as the ability to resolve conflict and the ability of spouses to enjoy activities together. People can increase or decrease their marital harmony with the communication skills they have. This affects the level of satisfaction and happiness that can be achieved from marriage.
2.6. Conflict in Marriage
Since the 1950s, changes have begun to occur in the family structure with the developing industry, especially in western societies. With the inclusion of women in working life, economic developments, increasing education levels, and the equalization of the places of men and women in society, differences have been observed in the family structure. Marriage research has begun to examine the effect of women's involvement in business life on marital satisfaction. On the one hand, research has been conducted on work, marriage, parental roles and the work-family conflicts created by these roles, and their relationship with marital harmony. Due to its sensitivity to these changes, regular examination of marital relations is important in terms of showing the point reached in marital relations today. Therefore, in this study, marital harmony of married individuals, personality traits (nacissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism), communication , the relationships between conflict resolution behaviors, demographic variables, marital adjustment, and conflict resolution communication skills in marriage were examined.
In addition to inadequacy in communication skills, inadequacy in conflict resolution skills is also seen as the main cause of marital problems. Conflict is an integral part of human life and relationships. Although conflict generally refers to disagreement, disagreement and incompatibility, factors such as failure to meet people's basic psychological needs, different value judgments, cultures and genders also cause conflicts. Conflict resolution styles of spouses during conflict and their ability to understand each other's emotions are also related to the quality of communication. Reasons for the onset of interpersonal conflicts: It may result from differences such as cognition, perception, emotion, unconscious, needs, communication skills.
Environmental conditions in which people grow up, culture, family structure, education levels and working conditions affect conflict levels. Another factor that affects individuals' conflict situations in marriage life is their marriage style. “Early marriage, arranged (traditional) marriage, love marriages” are among the factors that determine conflict in marriage. One of the important variables in marital harmony is sexual harmony. Hawton and Catalan stated that there is a relationship between sexual dysfunctions and marital problems, and the important thing here is to distinguish which is primary and which is secondary. Many clinicians believe that sexual dysfunctions, rather than being the cause of marital conflicts, occur as a reflection of the underlying problems of the relationship, in other words, they develop secondary to the problem in the couple's relationship. This idea also coincides with the fact that couples applying for sexual therapy experience a certain level of conflict between spouses.
There are many other factors that cause conflict that disrupts the harmony in married life. Some of those; Women and men not being open to each other after marriage, Spouses living individual lives before marriage, spouses' character traits, wanting to behave freely after marriage, spouses thinking that they are restricted after marriage, spouse not fulfilling their responsibilities towards another spouse, child care, professional status of spouses and so on.
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