According to the existential approach, the individual faces the consequences of existence and experiences conflict for this reason. The benefits of existence mean the ultimate concerns in human life. These; death, freedom, isolation and meaninglessness. When the individual is faced with any of these life realities, existential conflict occurs.
The ultimate anxiety that causes the most fear is death. A person experiences existential conflict when he oscillates between his awareness of the inevitability of death and his desire to continue existing. Another ultimate concern, freedom, is clinging to fear. According to the existential view, freedom means the absence of external structure. The person is completely responsible for his/her lifestyle, choices, decisions and actions. In other words, the person is completely free in his own life and is responsible for everything. This means that there is no ground beneath the person, just a void. In this case, the conflict arises from the contradiction between groundlessness and the desire for a ground. The third ultimate concern, isolation, means that one begins and ends existence alone. No matter how close one is to another, one is still alone. Existential conflict is the tension between one's awareness of loneliness and the desire to connect and be whole. Meaninglessness, as the last ultimate concern, is questioning the meaning in one's life. If a person creates his own world, lives in an indifferent universe and will eventually die, he begins to search for the meaning of life. In this case, the conflict arises from the dilemma of searching for meaning in a meaningless universe.
Nowadays, "search for meaning" has become very fashionable. All kinds of personal development seminars and books, life coaches, two-day psychologists, gurus, shamans, pilgrims and teachers have appeared. All of these constitute a professional group, but as everything accelerates and we turn into a consumer society, all of these professional groups have begun to be misused.
What is the psychotherapy process? Psycho derives from the Greek psukhē "soul, mind", and therapy derives from the Greek therapeia "healing". Therefore, since psychotherapy means improving spiritual processes, it is concrete, Nothing tangible is mentioned. This makes psychotherapy open to abuse.
Nowadays, there are people who take 2 days of training and declare themselves life coaches, read books and call themselves personal development experts, go to India 3-4 times and think they are guru. The period has accelerated so much, loneliness has increased so much; People's psychology began to deteriorate more than before. Or we heard it more because it was something more acceptable. This being the case, mental health has also become a commodity.
People need to feel happier, more peaceful, calmer, more satisfied and more free. There are those who recognize this need, but many do not know how to realize it. People with strong marketing skills can catch these gaps well and create a false sense of well-being. This is not called "impostor", but "personal developmentist" or "life coach".
How does a psychotherapist develop? He graduated from the university's psychology department and completed his master's degree. At that point, you may think that being a student is over, but it has just begun. She attends continuous trainings, workshops and congresses. A person must go through his own therapy process, discover his own blind spots, work with his subconscious and is in constant development. While all this is happening, he receives supervision from more educated people in order to be productive for his clients, and he does all of this with great love.
So what happens to the clients of lying psychologists, inadequately trained coaches and gurus? Research shows that these people initially experience a very serious sense of happiness and confidence. However, this is temporary because self-confidence is inflated in 2-3 day intensive programs. You even walk on fire with the power of thought. Then it is thought that we have the power to do anything in life. Many serious decisions are made with that courage. Jobs are changing, hometowns are being changed, spouses and lovers are being left behind. However, when this inflated self-confidence returns to normal and real life returns to its usual routine, you become a fish out of water. At that point, great regrets and anger begin. Both one's self-confidence and the trust in others are losing.
On the other hand, false gurus, psychologists, coaches and personal guru Technicians also continue to inflate their egos. They begin to guide everyone as if they have figured out life, and as they influence people with charisma and marketing techniques, without knowing right or wrong, they begin to see themselves as greater. In fact, they don't know that by doing this, they are getting further away from themselves every day. At this point you really need to be very careful. These people use the spiritual state of the other person. They take advantage of their weaknesses and negative emotions to feed themselves MATERIALLY AND SPIRITUALLY. This is called dishonesty!
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