A month ago, one of my closest friends called. His voice was shaking. “I feel bad, there is nothing positive in my life. Whatever I touch dries up, I can't laugh anymore! Nothing is the same as before!” he said and started crying. While I was wondering what might have happened, I was also trying to make her calm down.
After the sudden death of her mother, Pelin was left alone with her father. At that time, I thought he had gotten over his mother's death quickly, but his father's immediate worries and unnecessary fights hurt him deeply. I hurriedly left all my work unfinished and went to him.
He looked bad. His eyes were swollen from crying. He started telling me without asking: "Everything is going so bad in my life, if you only knew..." He talked to me about many things that day. He said that he felt weak, that he had no appetite, that he did not enjoy doing anything, that going to work was such a burden for him, and that he resigned yesterday because he could not bear this torture any longer. I just listened without interfering with him, other than asking small questions from time to time to ensure the understanding of the subject. When he finished speaking, he took a deep breath and said, "Isn't this depression I'm experiencing?"
He was not wrong in his guess, Pelin was depressed.
So, what was this depression?
Depression is a health problem that we encounter very frequently. It can be seen in people from all walks of life, all age groups, without discrimination. Research has shown that 10 out of every 100 men and 20 out of every hundred women experience depression throughout their lives.
The situation a person is in causes him/her to be dissatisfied with himself/herself. This is expressed through complaints such as incompetence, worthlessness, and incompetence. The person is indifferent to the people, objects, and events to which he was previously interested and enjoyed.
He cannot be satisfied with daily life and experience. This state of dissatisfaction reduces or completely severs the person's relationship with his family, environment, and work. All interests and relationships seem meaningless and unnecessary to him. The patient wants to escape from situations that require effort, work and responsibility.
Stagnation, apathy and unwillingness form the basis of the sensory state. Person on one hand He complains that he has lost his former interest in his family, his mother, his father, his child, his wife, his friend; On the other hand, he becomes more dependent on them because he is dissatisfied with himself and lacks self-confidence. Without their support and help, they cannot think correctly and make decisions.
They look at events pessimistically and consider every event seriously. They don't like jokes. There is a decrease in motivation. Their hopes for the future may have decreased or been lost completely.
Encountering negative life events, losses and mourning that may cause great sadness, business life problems, partner, marriage, family problems, pregnancy and postpartum period, hereditary predisposition. , excessive alcohol use, menopause - antrapause period, seasonal changes, changing country or city, new living conditions are the causes of depression.
Depression is a treatable disorder. If you show at least five of the symptoms I mentioned above, you need to get help from a specialist. Pelin's therapy sessions continue and she is currently in a much better situation than the situation I described. If you suffer from this problem, give yourself a chance to realize the beauties of life again and go back to your old days...
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