There are periods when people experience various "adaptation" difficulties. Life crises such as adolescence, menopause, andropause, social crises such as starting school, university, work, marriage, birth, child, changing city, moving increase our anxiety level. Even going on vacation is stressful sometimes. In life crises; We deal with our own internal conflicts, and in social crises, with our "power conflicts" with the people in front of us, and with our "role conflicts" in our nuclear and extended family.
We deal with our rapidly growing body in adolescence and our emotions that we cannot cope with. In role conflicts, being someone's child, someone's student, someone's spouse, someone's daughter-in-law, son-in-law, sister-in-law or employee means that conflict areas increase. Our best role is still being someone's child and student, right? And the "MOURNING" we hold for our losses... mourning is not only held after the death. Just as it can sometimes happen after your past youth, an underappreciated university or a lost lover, the loss of TRUST in the world and people as a result of the TRAUMA you have experienced sometimes invites eternal happiness.
Our happiness; Let's not sacrifice ourselves for anyone's treatment of us or the events that happen to us. Let us not leave the job of loving and approving ourselves to anyone else, just because the Creator found us worthy of creation and breathed soul into us. Let's keep our self-esteem high and do what suits us, without being provoked or tricked by others...
Example from life:
Some people are so selfish that they just want the other person to adapt to them. I first experienced the unbearable weight of this with my mother. He wanted life to be whatever he said. It's a frequent reminder that heaven is under his feet. He even blamed his genes on his head. There weren't many people in his father's family tree who were able to study at a university. All of his family from the village were educated. (They are really smart people) Then my wife asked how much oil should be put in the food, how to put the plates in the dishwasher, where should I plug my phone, how will she spend the money I earn, when should I drink water? He wanted to decide everything and everything. Sleep as someone who is traditionally married and “well-off” trying to provide m. He doesn't "be rude" for little things. I was saying "no" to his big and stupid flaws and was faced with his endless stubbornness.
What happened to all this patience? Stubbornness, selfishness, and lack of responsibility for our two beautiful children have died at such a high level... My back is bent in half from working, my throat is knotted from being patient, my breath is short, there are tears in my eyes, and everyone still wants labor, service, money, love, patience, respect from me. …
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