Family Counseling; It is psychological counseling conducted with a type of group whose members are individuals who form a family. In family counseling, while members reveal a problem in the family from their own perspective, the counselor helps each member:
• listen to others with respect,
• see and understand others' point of view,
• speak in a problem-oriented manner,
• express their feelings and thoughts more clearly towards others. It helps them to express themselves through language,
• not to behave in a hurtful manner towards others,
• to accept others as they are,
• to clearly express their expectations from others.
Partners in marriage You must be ready for a life. You should put your emotions aside and use your logic. It is very important that you and your spouse agree on basic issues regarding your future before marriage. It is impossible for you to be exactly the same in every respect as the person you marry. Do not expect a person who has lived with certain habits for years to suddenly change and act the way you want. Accept this fact before marriage. Examine the other person thoroughly and step into marriage only if you can accept and live with his/her habits that do not suit you. You will definitely have arguments and disagreements. When problems arise, do not break off your relationship immediately, find solutions. Act by putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
Marriage therapy is a form of psychotherapy that plans to psychologically change the interactions of two people who are in conflict with each other in one or more parameters such as social, emotional, sexual and economic. In marriage therapy, an educated person, The patient provides the therapeutic bond with the couple and, through communication, attempts to correct the disorder, change or reverse maladaptive behavioral patterns, and encourage personality development and maturation.
-Problems during the marriage process
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Cheating
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Violence
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Alcohol and substance use*
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Sexual problems
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Frequent arguments and fights
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Communication problems
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Personality conflicts
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Failure to meet couples' expectations for marriage.
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Problems with the root family
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Issues that change the family order such as job loss, migration, moving
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Inability to have children
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Indecision about having children, the parties inability to make joint decisions
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Chronic illness (physical or psychological**) of a family member
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Children's behavioral problems
IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCED THESE PROBLEMS, YOU SHOULD GET MARRIAGE COUNSELING AND MARRIAGE THERAPY SERVICES.
In marriage, the most basic factor that ensures the unity of the couple is the ability to resolve conflicts. Because it is inevitable for interests to meet and conflicts to occur in a place and even in life shared by two people. Even if love and sexuality continue as intense as the first day, conflicts can affect these two sublime feelings over time. The important thing is not to damage or lose the sense of mutual commitment. As with individuals, couples often try to solve their problems alone. However, just like individuals, couples also have blind spots that are not easily noticed. Sometimes, while dealing with what the day brings, these blind spots become deeply buried and can show their devastating effects from the inside. Same way; Even if it helps to overcome any conflict or situation, it is difficult to lift the weight of the feelings and overcome them and reach the minimum common.
Therapy environment; It is an environment that makes communication clear and concise, teaches mutually understandable speech with the help of a third person (therapist), enriches the person's one-way perspective on events, and provides self-awareness. It still depends on the couple themselves to benefit adequately from this environment.
The aim of therapy is to make communication healthy. The healthy continuation of a relationship depends on the couple's ability and willingness to resolve their conflicts. The following sentences are now frequently used in situations where the relationship between couples becomes a problem.
"You don't understand me at all."
"I can't explain myself to you.
"You You weren't like this before, you've changed a lot. "
"You're always like this. "
"You will never change"
"I can't stand you being so insensitive anymore.
Problems that arise in couples actually exist before they start to be seen as problems. However, in various stages of the life cycle (marriage, birth of children, children's school, spouses' work-professional roles, structuring the future), couples focus on certain goals.
Thus, he cannot see the "things" that prevent the relationship from working, or even if he sees it, he tries not to notice it, and tries to convince himself that even if he notices it, it will change after a while. However, in this life cycle, with sudden and major changes, difficulties, losses and the establishment of this cycle, people begin to focus on "self-awareness", which they may have never done before, or sometimes think about or even experience. What am I? What's happening? He begins to ask himself questions such as "What do I want?" He tries to investigate and analyze the "things" that he avoids noticing. The three components of the relationship are; Communication-power-emotion begin to be seen as real problems at that moment. The problems that have arisen in the relationship up to that point suddenly become insurmountable.
It is a fact that cannot be ignored that the majority of those who apply for couple therapy are women and that some spouses do not approve of therapy. Participating in therapy from both parties makes it easier to get results and also shortens the duration of therapy. But a very important fact is that the individual who is the victim in the relationship; (mostly women) can go a long way in their therapy journey alone, both for the relationship and for themselves
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