As you know, the magic wand in child education is; It is the relationship and communication
bonds established between mother and father.
Child; He creates his own schema in his mind from the communication styles between his parents. As a result of an event, he creates a form of communication towards his mother through his mother's reactions to his father, or towards his father through his father's reactions to his mother.
A child who is mentally healthy and can communicate effectively; It definitely goes through the functional family model.
So what is this functional family?
It contains;
1-Loyalty
2-Roles
3-Rituals
4-Trust
5-Boundaries
6-Communication
7- We can define families that have Attention/Love/Respect as a functional family.
Now. Let's explain these items;
1-Do you have a safe and healthy attachment style towards your partner?
2-Are the identity with which you define yourself in your relationship and the characteristics of your sexual identity compatible with each other? Do you have the characteristics required by that
identity or do you undertake the roles adequately?
3-Who makes popcorn at home on the weekend? Having your spouse prepare Sunday breakfast, going for a walk every Saturday night, etc. Are rituals present in your relationship?
4-Are you quite honest with your spouse?
5-Set some boundaries within the home. Personal phones should never be tampered with, or one should always be at home for dinner, etc. Boundaries will make you take your relationship more seriously.
6-Speak with I language, be perceptive and empathetic.
7-Compliment, do not order, request. When he exhibits the behavior that makes you happy, reward him by highlighting the behavior
, not himself. ''When you act like this, I feel like the luckiest person in the world
''etc. It is up to you to increase the frequency of that behavior with sentences like these.
On the other hand, the expectations of our identity from us in our family relationships are also very important. These are;
Professional Identity: Am I someone who gets job satisfaction?
Sexual Identity: If I am a woman, do I have female roles or if I am a man, do I take on male roles?
Ideological Identity: My stance towards the world why? How broad is my perspective?
How different are the characteristics of your identity with your partner? r compatible, can you handle conflicts with a correct and effective form of communication?
The more you fulfill the roles of men and women in your relationships, the more your child will take you as a model with the social
learning model and give him/her It will create a sexual identity accordingly.
Do not forget ;
You can never expect the child to do something that you have not done; because it learns all the actions from you
and decides whether to do it or not by gaining acquisitions according to the results.
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