“All children grow up, except one.” Scottish author J. M. Barrie's book Peter Pan, about a boy who refuses to grow up, begins with this sentence. Our hero, Peter Pan, lives in Neverland with his fairy Tinkerbell and Wendy, whom he rescued from Captain Hook. Peter Pan refused to grow up. He will live in this magical country forever and remain a child. Wendy also falls in love with this frivolous young man who saved her. But the end of the story is very sad. Peter Pan Syndrome (Peter Pan complex) is the name given to behavioral disorders seen in children who have a fear of growing up and in people who behave like children (socially) even though they are mature. The syndrome was discovered in 1983 by a psychoanalyst named Dan Kiley. Although the book titled Peter Pan Syndrome analyzes this syndrome in detail, it is not recognized as a real disease. This syndrome occurs most frequently at a mature age, when they have social duties. It is most common in single people. According to Dan Kiley, this syndrome may be caused by maternal pressure during childhood and the lack of authority of the father.
This syndrome is divided into separate sections:
Between 10-15 years of age: the child's connection with the outside world. , out of fear, tries to break it off. He avoids his duties and remains alone.
Between 16-22 years of age: Self-conceit and machismo are felt.
Between 23-25 years: Unhappiness and discomfort with life are felt. Between 26-30 years old: The syndrome progresses and the situation becomes more serious.
From the age of 45: one tries to be a child again and moves away from an undesirable life style.
Boomerang Generation
Instead of analyzing the messy algorithm of a life where we can bend the rules to the fullest, an established order is definitely more attractive to Peter Pans! When you examine the Peter Pan Syndrome in detail, you come across people who have not completed the stages of growth called the 'boomerang generation'.
These people who cannot fly away from home are shown as the five steps of growth: finishing school, leaving home, earning money, getting married and having children. They continue their lives without ticking items such as "owning".
When we consider it from an economic perspective, living with the family is the new generation Pet. It is an oasis where luxury consumption opportunities increase for the Pans. Another reason why the number of children and adults is increasing is the increasing unemployment all over the world. However, purely economic reasons are not enough to explain this rapid climb. The concepts of parenting that have changed in the last 30 years also have an important role in this regard; “Now that parents have started to act and solve problems before their children, young people have forgotten how to do things on their own. It is not easy for the new generation to give up the comfort provided by parents who have become a kind of caregivers for their children! Who doesn't want to see that their food is ready and their belongings are clean and ironed when they come home from work tired? On the other hand, the boomerang generation, which cannot predict what life will bring, follows its childhood rituals with series such as Harry Potter and Twilight, cartoons such as The Simpsons or South Park, and Playstation games, instead of facing responsibility.
If we have developed a dependent relationship with our parents, external The world may seem like a scary place full of dangers. However, in his book Peter Pan Syndrome, Dan Kiley describes 'big babies' as fun, attractive, and very often successful, but says that they will disappoint the other person in the relationship; “Those who suffer from this syndrome are emotionally immature. "He is in trouble with love or responsibility, and his relationships can go towards crisis at any moment." he says.
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