The one who shields with anger sits in harm's way Sharp damage to the vinegar cube Deep water
flows slowly... Anger comes and darkens, anger goes dark, Anger
is sweeter than honey... Words used in many societies such as idioms
we can count.
You drove me crazy, I'm in this state because of you, There is a responsibility that is constantly placed on others, as if you've blown me off
, in fact
and here the person is completely out of control of himself
As there is no br />, a message is flowing.
Anger: His an emotion that arises in the brain as a result of hormonal and emotional changes and shows intense physical symptoms. Changing the anger experience or
expression style is always possible and can be learned.
Genetic factors, the person's endocrine system, personality structure, childhood
experiences, upbringing, impulse control level, frustration threshold
are effective in anger.
During anger, the sympathetic nervous system is stimulated and the parasympathetic nervous system
needs to be stimulated to calm down.
A series of physiological changes occur during anger. A
stimulus activates the feeling of anger. Stress and tension start to build
. Adrenaline, which increases energy, begins to be secreted. Breathing
and heartbeat become more frequent, blood pressure increases, the mind goes into fight or flight mode
.
In epilepsy and mental retardation, brain traumas, some mental
diseases Conditions such as alcohol and substance use, and low serotonin
are also factors related to anger.
The more oppressive and conservative the traditions, the more rigid the superego
the greater the anger. In societies where frustration and suppression are high
, anger is high. On the one hand, it is a situation that is learned and transmitted as a model
in the society. The more values,
approaches and problem solving styles in society are learned, how
taught and normalized, the more likely
to emerge. Weakness of self and impulsivity also increase the tendency to anger
. Expression of anger through learning is different
without anger through learning can be expressed. No one has ever been
a prisoner of what they have learned and experienced, and change is possible.
Unexpressed anger is associated with anxiety, depression, somatic complaints, skin
problems, headaches, respiratory and stomach problems.
can result. Being angry and expressing anger are different from being able to control
that emotion. Are you going to manage your anger or
the most important question that will manage your anger is here. Very angry
people secrete too much cortisol, so the probability of getting cancer
increases.
When we look at what else is in anger, it is seen that the feeling of inadequacy
increases. It is known that there is a perception of humiliation, worthlessness, not being accepted, and threat. Anger has a physiological side, an emotional side, and a cognitive side. The angry person
sees the physiological side clearly, but is unaware of the underlying emotions and cognitions
. Although it has nothing to do with it, he may perceive this as
insulting his personality and get angry. Often
someone who gets angry has misperceptions and wrong
judgments of which they are internally unaware. It has inner sensitivity and weakness. Underlying
traumatic experiences may be triggered. Situations that make people angry
in traffic are not related to traffic or vehicles, but are related to the inner problems that the person can not handle
and are open to immediate
triggering. The most important
question the person who is often angry will ask himself is: Why do I often feel humiliated, why
do I fall short of inadequacy, why am I so inclined to feel worthless
. The answer to these questions is
in the person's past life /> is hidden in negative experiences and the meanings they attribute to these experiences.
Recognizing and separating emotions is very important
. Anger is used to cover which underlying emotions
. Sometimes one emotion may come to the fore in order to suppress
another emotion. Anger, of course, leads to violence and
violent behavior� It brings inclination towards it. A child who identifies with an angry father
may act violently by playing the role of a tyrant.
Feeling insecure and threatened, emotional immaturity
is quite common in those who act with anger.
In some personality disorders, anger and angry behaviors are seen too
. People with antisocial personality disorder may be quarrelsome, irritable,
disregard for the rights of others, selfish, self-interested and impulsive.
They have a ruthless nature without a sense of responsibility and lack of conscience and empathy. In borderline personality disorder
relationships are constantly inconsistent, there is an extreme sensitivity to frustration
, self-perceptions are inconsistent, and there are
harming behaviors to others and to oneself. The feeling of emptiness, intense anger and
inappropriate expression are in the foreground. In narcissistic personality disorder,
generally feeling of superiority, belief in vindication, need to be praised frequently,
seeing others as worthless, self-esteem, self-interest, lack of empathy
, jealousy, intense feelings of hatred and easy
anger is in question.
Recognizing yourself and your emotions and learning to regulate your emotions
. Learning to control the body, using humor,
to stop when you get angry and continue when you are calm. It is important to change the space
, learn to calm down by taking deep breaths and activate the parasympathetic
nervous system, and make it a habit to use the I language
. First of all, while the person needs to control
even himself by being angry, he needs to learn and realize that he cannot control anyone with this angry state
. Distorted perceptions
and automatic thoughts are very abundant in angry people and these need to be replaced with therapy
. Problem solving skills are learned. Recognizing the thoughts and inner beliefs that trigger emotions
erroneous evaluations
is the most important factor in coping with anger. It is necessary to face the threat
perception and often get out of the defensive state and change this behavior
. negatively learned behavior pose itif
can be replaced by a learned behavior. No one has the right to say what should I do
I am like this. This sentence is a sentence of despair. Developing empathy
also improves interpersonal relationships. Learning to control
anger serves to protect mental and physical health. For the person
it improves life.
When you remember your angry moments so far, how much do you think
has contributed to you. Did it contribute to your problem solving
or did it prevent you from seeing things objectively and giving correct responses
? Why do you persist in angry situations where you have suffered the constant harm
that hasn't helped you until now? You can say I can't help
. In fact, when you work in a therapy setting, you'll find that it's in your hands
but maybe you can't do it alone.
Look at what you've lost so far with angry behavior and situations.
How much has it cost in your life and why are you still doing it? continue to pay the price
? Anger is my method of defense, my
method of protection, you believe it is strength or worth or weakness
. For you, questioning the meaning of this and realizing it is a priority.
In the main problem-solving phase, people actually disable their mental
processes and a constriction occurs in the mind
.
Anger is a normal emotion, as long as you control it and express it in an appropriate
way. But when
gets out of control and turns into aggression, and when you bring in destructive behaviors,
goes into a process that complicates life and confuses people
instead of solving problems.
Anger is an emotion, but it's an emotion. It is the meaning given to the stimuli that cause it to occur or to what is going on. This meaning is always
open to change. It is often loaded with distorted meanings.
Developing mental flexibility, questioning this meaning, and recognizing the connections that lead to
meanings and their relationship with experiences
are necessary for permanent change. An angry mood often does not develop It also means
detachment from one's own inner world, and from inner connections. Instead of impulsivity, there is a need for more activation of the mind and more
use of the thought system. For example
at what times of the day do you feel more angry? During those hours
what is happening in your life that you feel threatened, that you don't feel safe,
that you don't feel accepted, that makes you feel worthless
? Or what often happened during those hours in the past? A learned
sense of insolubility and a feeling that is not directed towards the solution given to this insolubility emerges.
Things such as failure, shame, loneliness, disappointment, frustration are the most common things Issues that cause anger. Most of the
cause of anger is its own inner reasons, rather than the behavior of the other people, and these internal reasons that are not aware of
cause this emotion to occur frequently and make your life difficult.
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