Friend finding sites on the Internet are becoming more and more common. The reason for this shows that there is serious interest. So, why do people choose this platform?
Actually, there is no single reason for this choice. First of all, it has the advantage of reaching more people, the options are endless. Another reason is that people believe they take less risks on this platform. They can cut off communication whenever they want, and this weakens the idea of taking risks in people.
Could the effortlessness of the establishment of the relationship be a factor in this choice?
Yes, relationships in real life. It is more difficult to install. To establish a real relationship, a certain social environment, financial resources and self-confidence are needed. However, when you are on the internet, you can meet many people without spending any effort, action or money.
So how do people trust someone they have never seen? After all, a person does not have to present himself correctly.
First of all, the person sees the other person as himself. Because he is on the same platform for the same purpose. For example, he himself hides a feature that he does not want to be known. He also knows that when he cuts off communication, the other person cannot disturb him, and this is where the greatest trust lies. Afterwards, many things are shared and they create the other person with both the people they know and the characteristics they add. There is already a virtual protector, a curtain.
Well, wouldn't this relationship that goes on without seeing each other become dangerous after a while? As time goes by, won't dreams replace reality?
If this process continues, the relationship becomes problematic. People can confuse real life with dreams. In other words, disturbances in the perception of real life may occur.
First of all, people are very brave and willing... Because they have the opportunity to meet people with whom they cannot meet in real life for any reason.
The most important factor here is expectation. ... people behave comfortably in online relationships with the logic of less responsibility. However, if there is a desire to turn it into a real relationship, the relationship can work healthily.
If one or both parties avoid meeting and this period takes longer, what does this mean?
Do not want to meet There may be errors in the information a new person gives about himself. So it is highly likely that he has some anxiety about himself. As we said, what is important is what is expected from this established relationship; It is very normal for people who do not want a real relationship to run away.
It is also emotionally harmful to have a relationship only in a virtual environment for a very long time. Expectations are increasing, dreams are growing and moving further away from reality. In this case, the possibility of disappointment increases. If the expectation is a real relationship, the person will not keep this period long. He knows that he is investing in an imaginary relationship with each passing day.
There is actually no problem in meeting on the internet and virtual platforms. The problem lies in not being face to face for long periods of time. A healthier relationship will be achieved by meeting face to face as soon as possible, rather than virtual friendship for a very long time.
Love is a deep and comprehensive subject and feeling... Can a person fall in love with someone he has not seen, touched, or whose movements he does not know? ?
I think how we define love becomes important here. But we may think that we are in love with someone we cannot see or touch; Because we dream about it, we create a movement, an image, an attitude, that is, a person in our mind, and we may fall in love with him. The issue is, is the person in our dreams the same person?
As you stated, not seeing each other after a while would be an investment in an imaginary relationship. So, can this dream world make the other person obsessed?
Whether a person becomes obsessed with us or not is something about us. However, if the person we know in the virtual environment is very different from the one in real life, if we start to depend on a fiction that we have created in our own minds or that the other person has told us, and we have started to have a relationship with him/her, disappointment and depression may follow. Or a relationship that is established and maintained only in a virtual environment may start to distance us further from social life.
Do you have clients who have started a relationship in a virtual environment? What kind of problems did these people come to you with?
I have had clients who started relationships in the virtual environment. However, the cause of their problems was not the relationship that started in the virtual environment. However, the most common problem I experience in such beginnings is imagination. There is disappointment. The point that should not be forgotten is that the issue is not that the relationship or meeting should be in a virtual environment, but that it should only be maintained in a virtual environment, and this should be the point that should be taken into consideration.
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