The child accepts everything the mother and father do as a reference, that is, as 'correct'.
CHILDREN LEARN BY TAKING MODELS
According to Albert Bandura, who developed the Social Learning Theory, children learn behavior by taking adults as models, not by reward and punishment. The child wants to dress like his parent, talk like his parent, and act like his parent. He acquires new behaviors by imitating his parent's behavior.
The most important result here is this: The child accepts everything the mother and father do as a reference, that is, 'correct'.
Even if the parents do something wrong during childhood, this is right according to the child. For example, the mother is sad and crying, the child asks, "Mom, what's wrong, why are you sad?" The mother replies, "I'm fine, baby, there's nothing wrong." As a result of this answer given by the mother so that her child will not be upset, the child does not learn the concept of lying.
So, what does the child learn? He learns that being good and feeling good is like this. The word that defines the state of being sad is now the word "good" according to the child.
HOW CAN ABSTRACT CONCEPTS SUCH AS TRUTH, HONESTY, AND GENERANCE BE EXPLAINED TO CHILDREN?
Truth and honesty, It is as much as the harmony of the parents' actions and words. Once this harmony is established, every event encountered in daily life, every cartoon watched, every game played is a wonderful material to explain the concepts of truth and honesty to the child.
The most important blow that disrupts this harmony is the physical or physical injury that the parent inflicts on the child. is emotional violence. Because this is the moment when the child's trust in the parent and in life is shaken. The concepts of truth and honesty, with which the child connects with life, have lost their importance.
Advice should never be given at the time of the incident by talking about the harms of lying. No one wants to accept a suggestion when they are angry or embarrassed.
Conversation in quiet times should not be understood as just mutual conversation. As we mentioned above, storytelling, puppet play, etc. It should be used for this purpose.
Generosity means sharing what you have with people without expecting anything in return. Generosity means looking after the needy, giving unintentionally, and underestimating what you give.
WELL, GENERANCE K HOW CAN WE BRING OUR CHILDREN'S PERSONALITY?
1- Suggest your children to give some of what belongs to them to their friends, siblings or cousins. Gradually encourage them to get used to this and appreciate this behavior. It may be difficult for children at first, but let them know that you understand their feelings, but that they are doing a great job. Of course, use this method from time to time; children should not be forced to do this.
2-Sometimes suggest your children to let you play with their toys with the visiting child. Advise them to eat their food and drinks with their friends.
3- Sometimes, suggest them to use some of their pocket money to donate to charities, educational institutions or nature conservation foundations. If this action is regular, its effect will be greater.
4-Suggest your children to invite their friends home and host them. Spending time with others makes it easier for them to learn to share and reinforces generosity.
5-Explain the importance of helping people and other creatures in need of support and help, and make it easier for them to empathize.
Generosity begins with giving your love to your child. Sometimes a warm smile, sometimes a tight hug, and sometimes being able to touch their heart by sharing their feelings is the moment when parents are most generous to their child.
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