Children show their reactions to school in different ways;
-They may not want to take the bus
-They may say they are sick
-They may prepare slowly
-In addition, they may give biological reactions (they may have a headache, feel nauseous, or start vomiting).
All of these are signs that your child is anxious about school. The reason for this concern varies. The important thing is to find the underlying cause of the anxiety without panicking and by remembering your own childhood. It is normal for children to have difficulties in the first week or two after school starts. They restart their old routines or encounter some routines for the first time. The adaptation phase will take time. The underlying cause of your child's school anxiety may be fear of being separated from you, lack of self-confidence, anxiety about adapting to the new environment, social phobia, sibling jealousy or experiencing a negative event (peer bullying, wrong teacher attitude, etc.).
What can you do?
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Talk to your child about school often, being careful to go into details when talking.
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Contact his/her teacher
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If the school environment is new for your child, get to know them together and explain what they will do there. When explaining this, for example; Conversations such as "You are now grown up, brother, sister, you will go to school and learn new things, you are old enough to be apart from us" will increase your child's anxiety level. Instead, school is a new environment for you and for us (you can talk about the fears you experienced in your own childhood and how you relaxed later). You will learn new information there and we can talk about these together when you come home. Our whole life will continue the same outside of school (we will still do the activities we did together, play games again). You will continue to play.)
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If your child has separation anxiety, do not react emotionally before leaving and do not prolong saying goodbye. Send him off with more neutral expressions. For example; It's time for you to go to school, I'll be there when you need it, you'll get used to it over time.
Despite these, your child may still not want to go to school, and no matter what you do, you may not be able to convince him. Do things you haven't done before (nail biting, bedwetting, etc.) I recommend that you get help in such cases.
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