Death is the loss of someone or someone close to us, whom we have a relationship with, or whom we have a relationship with in some way. In fact, at the moment when we meet and bond, we tend to carry the person in front of us further, into the future. When we meet someone, acquaintance will usually not stay with the present. Either the bilateral relationship will not continue, or if it continues, it will be encountered again in many different ways. What is meant by these greetings is broad enough to witness the person in front of us being a grandmother or grandfather, from the fact that we will attend the wedding of the other person. For example, there is nothing more natural for a girl than to imagine her mother as a grandmother; Considering the many meanings we attribute to the people in front of us from the moment we meet, death is a very difficult phenomenon for human beings to meet. Compensation for loss varies according to many situations. Likewise, the reactions that may occur after the loss may depend on these variables. These variables are many other individual variables such as the characteristics of the individual or individuals who meet the loss, the degree of closeness with the lost person, the type of loss, whether the loss is sudden, the society and culture in which one lives.
Depending on these factors, Reactions that may arise;
Physical reactions; Fatigue, Inability to sleep, Muscle aches, Difficulty in breathing, Tremors, and many reactions that may differ according to individuals.
Emotional Reactions; Being in a state of shock, Sadness, Guilt, Disloyalty, Feeling in a dead end
Behavioral Reactions; Along with physical reactions, they can have many behavioral reactions such as preferring loneliness, trying not to communicate with people.
The person who has been lost. In the grieving process, she goes through various stages until she accepts the loss and reorganizes her life. With this phase r develops as follows:
Stage. Shock and Numbness:It is experienced at the first moment of loss/death/learning. The person experiences short-term numbness.
Stage. Denial/Disbelief:The person denies death/loss and may pretend that nothing happened for a while.
Stage. Desiring: The return of the lost person is expected and desired. Along with the questioning “Why did this happen to me”, this stage is accompanied by feelings of anger and loneliness. This anger that emerges after mourning is an effort to adapt.
Desperation: Because the person cannot prevent the loss or does nothing to bring the lost person back feels helplessness. Along with the feeling of helplessness, the person may experience problems in his work and social life at this stage. . There is a decrease in the intensity of grief reactions. The person begins to adapt to his life before the loss.
These stages may not be valid for all people who have been through the grieving process, some may have been stuck in the first of these stages, while others may have gone straight to the last stage. The grieving process is different for every person. The ability of grief to reach the stage of acceptance for the individual who has experienced the loss also depends on the person's ability to cope, solve problems, produce alternative thoughts and actions, and compensate. These; normal grief, complex grief, traumatic grief.
Normal grief usually lasts up to 6 months, but ages lasting 8 months or up to 12 months can also be considered normal besides evaluating according to individual differences. The fact that this period lasts for a long time indicates that the grieving process should be handled with the support of an expert.
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