Every person's greatest goal in life is to find true love. People prefer to depend on each other in relationships in order to realize themselves. However, when we say let's depend on each other, we become dependent individuals over time. The most important point in a relationship is not to be attached, but to be dependent. If we start as a need, rather than as a sharing process, that need turns into "addiction" after a certain period of time. When the addiction process is entered, the addicted person can almost ignore his own life and values and focus entirely on the relationship he has with the other person. The addicted person can focus entirely on the relationship with the other person. He cannot leave. In order not to break up, he constantly finds excuses and cannot set boundaries between himself and the person he is addicted to. He has a fear of losing and this affects his entire life. He wastes most of his energy with these thoughts and loses his productivity.
PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS OF THE INDEPENDENT IN A RELATIONSHIP.
DEPENDENT PERSONALITY FEATURES
They cannot make decisions on their own and feel powerless and helpless without the person they are dependent on in the relationship.
They are afraid of being alone and have the idea of breaking up with the person they are dependent on. They experience intense anxiety even when they are addicted.
They put aside their own needs for the person they are attached to and endure bad behavior towards them (violence, verbal attack, humiliation..)
Happiness for addicted people. It depends on the relationship going well.
They have difficulty making decisions on their own and need the approval of the other person.
They want everything to go well, and they are often disappointed because they dream in this direction.
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They constantly expect attention, and lack of attention puts the addicted person into depression.
They are passive.
They have pessimistic personality traits.
The most common situations in this type of relationships. These are jealousy, anger outbursts and arguments related to these situations.
WHY DOES ADDICTION HAPPEN IN EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS?
Failure to meet needs correctly when young causes addiction. Parents of addicted people also have addictive personality traits. To provide their children with the necessary attention and unconditional love Because they also have situations where they are in conflict with themselves. Therefore, their energy is constantly low and they have children who are always trying to attract their attention. Thus, their children cannot meet their own needs and they constantly see the needs of others instead of their own. While doing this, they seek the attention and love of the caregiver. They wait, and they also have the fear of losing it. They want to see the attention and appreciation that they did not receive when they were children, from others, in later ages.
WHAT SHOULD BE DONE?
All these reduce the person's quality of life and make his life very difficult. The person's fear and unhappiness are felt. and causes anxiety. In this case, the addicted person must first accept that he is addicted. Getting to know himself is an important point in this process. Then, the person must work to improve his self-confidence. The person must be aware that he is an individual and must protect his identity. And no matter what, never One should not live in a relationship as if it will never end and forget the possibility that it may end one day. The person will see the change in himself over time by getting help from an expert and using a more active attitude in psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is a preferred treatment method for those with these personality traits.
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