ANGER
Anger is an emotion that we experience unexpectedly and that brings physiological consequences. Anger is an emotion that is natural and considered normal up to a certain level. Anger is not a behavior but an emotion; it is a power that protects us so that we can survive. Anger is an emotion that is too important to be postponed and must be experienced. The way anger is expressed should be aimed at a healthy solution; It should not turn into aggression. Anger that cannot be expressed healthily; It is an EMOTION that can have expensive consequences...
Unresolved anger is hidden at the basis of personal and social problems. Anger arises as a result of a number of both internal and external factors. If anger gets out of control and becomes destructive, causing problems in personal relationships and overall quality of life, then it is time to take action.
Experiencing anger is not an abnormal situation. What is abnormal is anger that is not expressed in a healthy way and is suppressed and causes violence. Anger, when expressed appropriately, is extremely healthy and natural.
When anger is suppressed, it can appear in disguise, taking other emotions with it. When suppressed, it manifests itself with passive aggressive behavior. Anger is an emotion experienced in varying intensities, from a mild reaction to rage.
Some of the other emotions included in anger are; Anger, anxiety, irritation, grudge, hostility, hatred, desire for revenge, constant desire to criticize are contempt.
The situations in which each individual becomes angry are different. In addition, an individual may sometimes get angry about the same issue and sometimes not.
WHEN A PERSON IS ANGRY; The relax-think-act method should be applied, and the angering environment should be left until it calms down. The person should ask himself "what and why he is angry", and also try to recognize the underlying reasons for his anger and consider non-aggressive solutions. Also one should be able to analyze his/her anger. Namely;
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What is anger for me? Who or what makes me angry more? What are my limits? How do I express my anger? How healthy is the way I express my anger? Expressing my anger in a controlled and healthy way What's stopping me from doing it? What do I feel in a moment of intense anger? How can I express my anger more effectively? What lessons does my anger teach me? What are the negative consequences of my anger? How can I express my anger in a healthy way?
IN WHICH SITUATIONS DO WE GET ANGRY?
There are many things in our lives that make us angry. There is a factor. It's like we're surrounded by anger mines! We have flashes of anger. Maybe we are made to think as if we live only to be happy!
We have negative thoughts and emotions that we avoid experiencing. Every problem we run away from; It also means that we are missing experiences that will allow us to mature and become stronger.
We try to stay away from anger as if it were a bad emotion. We try to suppress our anger with all our strength, if any. What we fail to notice is that anger, up to a certain level, is healthy and has protective and healing power.
Of course, no one can live without getting angry and experiencing the feeling of anger. This is not possible either. What is possible is to use anger correctly. Those who think they can live without anger will only experience disappointment. Any event to which we do not or cannot react correctly may cause us to experience anger. The important thing is to interpret the event correctly.
Especially when we feel that we are not understood, when we experience conflicts in interpersonal relationships, when we are bored, when we think that we have been treated unfairly, when we cannot express ourselves, when our wishes and needs are not or will not be met, when we feel loneliness/anxiety/shame, when we experience frustration, when we feel disrespect\injustice\ WE GET ANGER when we think we are being harassed/attacked, when we lose a loved one, when we encounter an unloved person, when we experience academic failure, when we are subjected to physical or verbal attack, when we encounter social violence, when we experience threats and disappointment, when we focus too much on shoulds…
TYPES OF ANGER
Suppressed anger, learned anger, excitable anger, sudden anger, situational anger, constant anger �anger
EXPRESSION OF ANGER
Just as the events that cause people to become angry differ; Anger reactions to these events also vary.How to experience anger is a person's own choice.
Those who experience their anger more inwardly; They may have difficulty expressing their anger. These people usually express their anger reactions more inwardly by sulking, sulking, and remaining silent.
Those who experience their anger more outwardly; They experience their feelings of anger uncontrollably and aggressively. They are generally excluded from their social groups because of their angry behavior.
Those who experience their anger more aggressively; He reacts by hitting, shouting, getting angry, breaking the objects around him or punching the walls, that is, by acting aggressively.
Those who experience their anger more controlled; They can express their feelings of anger verbally.
CONSEQUENCES OF ANGER Body Reactions in Anger
Anger activates our emotions. Anger, like other emotions, is felt along with physiological and biological changes. If a person knows how to listen to his body; He will hear his body whispering to him that it is angry. Anger has some physical symptoms. Physiological reactions to anger; are increased blood sugar, increased pulse and blood pressure, frequent and difficult breathing, headache, back-neck-muscle pain, increase in adrenaline level, fatigue, and psychosomatic disorders. Mental reactions of anger; These are lack of concentration, low performance, forgetfulness, sleep and appetite disorders, inattention and lack of motivation. Emotional reactions of anger; , depression, anxiety disorders, tension. Behavioral reactions of anger; cigarette-alcohol-drug bond Its severity is eating disorders, aggression, violence, bullying, behavioral disorders, restlessness, haste.
WHAT DO WE DO WHEN WE GET ANGER?
We try to forget the event that caused anger, we need to suppress the event, we experience tension, passive aggressiveness. or we may experience crying crises by overreacting, sometimes we try to change the target, sometimes we prefer direct confrontation, or we may feel deceived, afraid, afraid of losing, blame or guilty, feel resentful, feel uncared for, or have crying spells.
EFFECTIVE WAYS TO DEAL WITH ANGER
As a physiological practice; nbreathing exercises, sports, muscle relaxation exercises
As mental practice; Removing angry thoughts from the mind, benefiting from the power of positive thinking, benefiting from the power of social support by sharing the positive or negative emotions felt with the people around
As a behavioral practice; using time efficiently, benefiting from effective communication power, empathy, ability to express emotions
WHEN ANGER IS NOT EXPRESSED APPROPRIATELY…
Headache, blood pressure problem , stomach disorders, muscle aches, respiratory problems, skin and skin problems, an increase in existing physical complaints and emotional problems may occur. In addition, attention and concentration disorders, forgetfulness, irregularities in sleep and appetite habits may be observed, as well as fatigue and restlessness in smoking and alcohol use.
When we get angry, we experience differences in our thoughts, behaviors, physiological reactions, emotions, and the way we communicate. p>
HOLD ON TO YOUR VIOLENCE!
VIOLENCE
Violence; It is an individual or social problem that causes physical or mental harm to people and continues with the use of force and pressure. Violence is not just physical. We can evaluate it in two categories: verbal and behavioral. Yelling, sulking, insulting, shouting or hitting constitute violence. Violence is harassment, intentional use of force, alienation, loneliness, intimidation. It means giving, exploiting, harassing, humiliating, persuading by force. Violence is actually a cry for help. The desire to be noticed is the message that I am here. Violence is a person's alienation from himself, it is the source of power of the weak. Violence is behavior that harms both individuals and society. Violence does not contain a solution but a deadlock. Problem solving and reconciliation cannot be observed simultaneously with violence. Violence brings abuse, psychological damage and physical harm.
Violence continues to exist in every aspect of life. It will continue to exist as long as humanity exists.
Violence is not only against healthcare workers! At home, at school, in the classroom, on the bus, in the cafe, in the hospital, on the road, in the store... In short, everywhere!... Each of us expects understanding and smiling faces from those around us; We cannot tolerate people who are sullen and sullen or disinterested. No one can tolerate feeling worthless. Where there is intolerance, anger flares up easily. In such a case, there is a high probability that anger will lead to aggressive behavior or violence. It should not be forgotten that devaluing approaches will return as violence.
First of all, it is necessary to distinguish between anger, violence and aggression. While anger is an emotion, violence is a form of behavior. Anger, when used positively, is the emotion that makes people strong and keeps people alive. Violence is the most negative form of expression of anger. In the process from anger to violence, thoughts and emotions determine the reactions to the situation that causes anger. From anger to violence, grudge, fear, anxiety, hatred, hostility, etc. accompanied by emotions. Violence is one of the external expressions of anger and violence.
Among the reasons for violence; lack of communication, loss of anger control, addictions, personality disorders, dependent personality disorder, psychological problems, cruelty, personal differences, genetic and cultural differences, education level
WHY IS VIOLENCE PREFERRED?
