Raising healthy, successful and happy children is every parent's dream. However, despite the sacrifices they make, many parents cannot achieve the success they want in their relationships with their children. This failure causes their motivation to decrease and them to feel inadequate.
I have good news for parents who have lost motivation!
It is not very difficult to strengthen the communication between you and your children. The pedagogical knowledge you gain to improve your problem-solving skills can guide you in becoming a “good enough” parent. In this article, I have compiled some pedagogical information under various headings that I think will help you. I hope this practical information will be useful to you. Have a good read.
How to Speak in a Way That Children Will Listen?
When communicating with your child, it is not important what you say, but how you say it. Do not use an angry facial expression and a high tone of voice to get people to listen to you. Children do not want to listen to an adult who is angry at them. Instead of long sentences, you should say short sentences repeatedly, use a loving but clear facial expression, and address the child with a soft and determined voice. This will make the child listen to you. In this way, you will be able to communicate with the child without conflict.
Why You Shouldn't Beg Your Child to Eat?
Parental attitude is very important in developing eating habits. Don't get angry when your child doesn't eat or beg him to finish what's on his plate. This causes eating to be perceived as an attraction. Instead, arrange meal times in a way that suits your child, let him choose the food he eats, and offer various and balanced products. Thus, eating turns into a natural activity. It is not used by the child as a means of communication.
How Does Praising Work?
Children need praise when learning certain behavioral patterns. However, you should not use praise to praise the child's personality. Otherwise, you will establish a connection between the child's self-worth and his behavior. Praise should always be directed towards behavior. For example, one might say, “You are eating well,” but “Eat up.” It should not be said, "My daughter is becoming more beautiful because of this." In this way, the child does not make mistakes about his/her self-worth. Correct praise reinforces positive behavior.
Lying
Lying during the preschool period is a way to independence. Do not overreact to the child when he lies during this age period. Reacting angry will cause the child to avoid telling the truth because he does not want to see you angry next time. Instead, try to understand why he is lying and explain the benefits of the truth. Knowing the importance of the truth for you will show your child how important it is to tell the truth.
Sentences Starting with You
Sentences starting with You direct the listener to defend himself. You should not use you language in your communication with your child. For example, “You are such a lazy child! Why don't you ever pack your things?” You should not criticize him with sentences such as. This approach causes the child to ignore you or resist you more. Instead, you should use I language that expresses your own feelings. This way, the child will not feel blamed. Solving your problems with I language reduces conflicts.
Sentences Beginning with I
The reason for many fights between you and your child is lack of communication. You should not ignore not only what you say, but also how you say it. Otherwise, the message you want to give will not reach your child. When speaking, you should pay attention to the right word choice, body language and tone of voice. Non-judgmental, soft and firm expressions will allow your child to listen to you. The correct form of communication makes it easier for you to be understood by your child and to cooperate with him/her.
Why Do Children Cry?
One of the reasons why children cry is emotional deprivation and stems from unmet emotional needs. A child who is deprived should never be made to cry. Otherwise, the child's emotional development will be damaged. A child who cries for such a reason must be embraced and consoled. Because the child needs to be loved, touched and consoled. When these needs are met, the child feels safe. Establishing closeness with his parents, the empty space he falls into It eliminates the feeling of disappointment.
Why Does a Child Get Offended?
Resentment is a means of expressing emotions, and sometimes children may resort to resentment as a problem-solving tool. Regardless of the reason for the resentment, parents should not try to convince the child or try to make peace by pushing hard. Because the child who sees that being angry works, often exhibits angry behavior. For this reason, parents should not fulfill the wishes of the offended child. This way, the child will see that being angry doesn't work. Expressing your emotions without getting offended improves your natural communication skills.
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