Sometimes we have difficulty in forgiving what our spouses and friends have done. Forgiveness can sometimes be the most difficult thing in the world, but if you make a little effort, you may find that it heals and liberates you.
Many studies support this thesis. A study conducted on 200 people at the University of San Diego revealed that forgiving people who have upset them, rather than holding grudges, positively affects people's health, and those who forgive have lower blood pressure and better heart health.
Forgiveness helps you live a long and healthy life. also supports. According to the news of Newsweek, one of America's respected magazines, in cases of inability to forgive, the level of Cortisol, the stress hormone, increases, and the risk of heart diseases, neurological disorders and memory loss increases. 1200 clinical studies conducted on this subject show that negative emotions harm both psychological and physical health of people.
A different study conducted on 259 people at Stanford University aimed to teach people to forgive. People who participated in the experiment stated that they felt less pain after forgiving the event, situation or person who harmed them.
Research has shown that people who learn to forgive feel better not only emotionally but also physically. For example, as a result of the experiment, it was determined that psychological and physical symptoms such as back pain, insomnia and stomach ache caused by stress decreased significantly in these people.
Forgiveness also sheds light on developing the right perspective. Because when you wash the window of your mud-covered car, you will clean the glass and gain a comfortable view.
Forgiveness is liberating you. By not forgiving, we are actually punishing ourselves. We ourselves in our souls condemned to carrying heavy loads. Forgiveness is actually the greatest favor we do to ourselves.
Forgiveness allows you to enjoy life and frees you from the captivity of anger and hatred. It helps us re-establish spiritual contact with ourselves.
Forgiveness actually means establishing a very warm relationship with your subconscious.
It helps you have a better conversation with your own soul. So the question By solving these problems, you become more friendly to yourself
So why is it difficult to forgive?
Most people think that forgiving means that they find the person they hate innocent. However, forgiving means getting rid of the yoke of past negative memories and ending negative emotions controlling our lives. Contrary to popular belief, forgiving does not mean ignoring a mistake. Forgiving does not mean forgetting the experiences we had in the past, on the contrary, it means seeing what happened as a lesson and not falling into the same traps.
I had a doctor client who was experiencing panic attacks, he blamed himself for his mother's death from cancer and could not forgive himself. ''I am a doctor, but I could not cure my mother; Maybe it would have been better if I had taken him to America. He was full of thoughts and feelings of guilt. Details of the incident emerged in studies involving hypnotherapy, creative imagination and emotional liberation techniques. After his mother's death, he got on the bus because he could not drive his car, and the same sentences kept repeating in his mind on the bus: "I couldn't heal my mother, maybe I should have taken him to America..." At this point, he became short of breath, felt like he was suffocating, was afraid that he would faint or even die, and that's when he had his first panic attack. Now, every time she saw or even thought about a bus, she had a panic attack and felt like she was drowning. He noticed these in therapy sessions, understood the reasons for the panic attack, and those emotions were released. He was very relieved, but the real healing would come when he forgave himself and no longer blamed himself, and that's what happened. It was studied at a subconscious level that he did his best as a doctor when his mother had cancer and that it was not his fault. During the session, he was made to imagine a moment when he was chatting with his mother, sitting on opposite chairs: His mother was crying as she said that she loved him very much, took good care of him during his illness, and was proud of him. She became more relaxed with self-forgiveness affirmations. Then he remembered his anger towards his wife, who complained about him frequently going to her mother's house during her mother's illness. When she was told that she needed to forgive him in order to be happy and at peace, she said: "I can't do this, I can't forgive him, he doesn't deserve this." "I forgive not because he deserves it, but for your healing and liberation." We practiced the suggestions "You are my hand". Forgiveness does not mean accepting that he is right; we forgive for ourselves, not for him. To be free from our burdens. He no longer has panic attacks, he recovered by forgiving both himself and his wife...
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