The question that comes to many parents' minds when they come to a specialist to get psychological support for their children is:“What does this child want?”The answer to this question is closely related to the environment the child is born into and the relationship he establishes with his caregivers.
A child, first of all, wants to have a secure attachment relationship. With the concept of "attachment" studied by the famous Psychologist John Bowlby, it has once again been understood how important the relationship between mother and baby is. Bowlby observed that babies develop attachments to their mothers in different ways. While some babies have a close, intimate and synchronized relationship with their mothers based on trust, it has been observed that some may be anxious or avoidant in their relationships with their mothers. The trust-based relationship that the baby establishes with its mother, especially in the first 2 years, actually affects the baby's entire life. In this process, it is important to meet the baby's needs appropriately and adequately and to support him/her in regulating his/her emotions. Meeting these needs with love and attention provides the baby with the opportunity to be calmer and more peaceful and to explore his environment based on trust. Therefore, it is important that the baby is wanted, loved, and that its basic physiological and emotional needs are met even before birth. So, the answer to the question "What does a child want?" We can say that he basically wants a parent who loves him, who can show this love, who touches him, who gives him confidence, and who sees to his needs.
This relationship pattern established in the first periods of life is also carried over to other periods of life. Many difficulties await children who have not been loved enough or who have not felt loved, who have not been allowed to express their emotions, who have not met needs such as nutrition and care, and who have not experienced a safe other. These children may show many symptoms just to show themselves, to experience the love they have not experienced, or to erase the traces of the traumatic experiences they have experienced. Every symptom the child shows is actually a cry for help. It is a different way of saying see me, understand me, notice my pain. If the child is not adequately supported during this process, these experiences may carry problems into adolescence and adulthood. Uh health experts meticulously consider the processes that the child goes through from the time the child is planned to be born until this age. It is observed how basic needs are met in infancy, the relationship with caregivers, and whether a secure attachment can be developed. During the psychological support given to the child, he/she is given the opportunity to re-experience a relationship based on trust and to recognize and regulate his/her emotions. Because the capacity to change, develop, love again and be loved can always be improved. Wishing you beautiful days where children are loved, protected, included, approved and able to explore their environment safely within boundaries...
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