Experts, who say that we should put the skill of delaying gratification in children at the top of our lives, emphasize this achievement very much. They emphasize that the way to spend quality time is actually to be able to postpone our pleasures, and that this situation should be taken into consideration in adults as well as in children.
In order to be successful in life, one must first of all overcome the desire for instant gratification through rational means. Nowadays, people want to have everything, and the reason for this is related to the person's ability to control himself and his patience and tolerance skills. So how can we provide this control for our children in a world full of people focused on instant gratification?
Every parent wants their children to be successful in life, hard-working, undaunted in the face of difficulties, positive and reliable individuals who will be useful to society. And they all have more or less an idea of what kind of person they want their child to be when he or she grows up. It is an important issue to know what to do as families in the face of intolerance and impatience experienced by our children and to act accordingly.
As a result of the research; It has been proven that teaching children to be patient, to wait and how to manage that waiting process, and as a result, to raise stronger, more stress-tolerant individuals, and to raise strong individuals not only socially and emotionally but also academically in later ages.
A world first. The “Marshmallow Test”, also known as the “Delay of Pleasure Skill Test”, which was first applied by Walter Mischel at Colombia University in 1970, has been widely used for 40 years to measure the self-control and emotion management skills of kindergarten children aged 4-6.
Actually, two important things are observed with the Delay of Pleasure Test. The first of these is his ability to control himself, and the other is how much of a doable and practical thing it is for him to wait. In other words, the child is expected to both control his instincts and show the ability to decide if he waits, thinking that it is logical to earn something better. There is both emotion and logic involved.
Well, this is three. How do children differ according to their procrastination skills?
When we reach the ages of 25-30, we see that "people with procrastination skills" are more successful in achieving long-term goals, drug use is less and their education levels are higher among these people. We can say that the body mass index is lower. There is a reciprocal relationship between learning to delay gratification at a young age and being successful in adulthood, along with problem solving, creative thinking and control of impulsive behaviors.
There is a way to learn this skill, which we could not learn as a child, now; As long as we are at peace with ourselves, let's identify our area of change and move on with life thinking about the great reward we will reach at the end, that is, let's "delay gratification" this time...
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