As an emotional state that can vary from a simple state of anger to intense anger, anger is an emotional state that everyone experiences with different intensity, duration and severity. Anger can appear as a sign that we are hurt, that our rights are violated, that our needs and wishes are not met. It can also be considered as an indication that something is not going well in our life. It is an emotion we feel as a result of being blocked. So it is natural. It is a reaction we give to cope with the threat we perceive (Kassinove and Tafrate, 2021). Physical changes such as our facial expression, tone of voice, and volume send signals to our environment about our anger. Therefore, we can say that anger is more than just a communication tool. Anger can be defined as “a complex form of our thoughts, words, actions and psychological state and reactions”. In addition, researchers have different definitions of anger. For example, some philosophers believe that anger is a strong emotion triggered by negative events; some scientists believe that anger is fundamental and universal, experienced when attacked against perceived threat, a personal, negatively projected emotion as an overstimulated opposition to someone or something; It is suggested that it is associated with negative thoughts about triggers. Even though anger is thought of as an unwanted, repulsive, damaging and negative emotion, it should not be forgotten that it also has a protective aspect against dangers.
When we get angry, we can ignore the causes and stages of our anger. It is not as simple as we can say, “We live once, our limits are pushed and we get angry” and it is a process that progresses in stages, although it seems to happen quickly. The first stage of anger is the occurrence of a triggering event. This triggering factor can be caused by our thoughts, feelings and emotions, as well as by environmental factors such as being insulted or unfairly treated. The second stage is shaped by how we perceive what triggers us. If we perceive the event we are experiencing as being belittled, not taken seriously, or being blocked, we may become angry. We can even shrug in response to that, argue. we can break, we can break In other words, our evaluation of the event is formed by our thoughts and rules, which also determine how our behavior will be. This is the part that is open to interpretation. So what someone is angry about may not make us angry or just as angry. For example, while the light of the apartment floor flashing at short intervals, some of the people living on that floor accept the situation, while some may be uncomfortable and some may be really angry. In any case, the type of reaction shown gives information about their perception of the situation that caused their anger. The third and final stage of anger is the action-oriented response. It answers how we act when we are angry. Do you slam the door when you get angry, do you push whatever is on the table, do you try to calm down, do you say hurtful words, do you express it indirectly, do you swallow it, do you shout, do you suppress it? These and similar behaviors are the operational consequences of anger and give you the option to turn the situation into a constructive or even more destructive one.
What should not be forgotten here is that even anger that ends badly serves a purpose. This purpose can enable us to know ourselves better, to understand, and perhaps to discover a feature that we need to correct.
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