Hello, I would like to talk about game, a term we have heard frequently lately. The place of play in a child's life is very important. It is a reflection of the child's identity, feelings, thoughts, in short, himself. We all actually play games with our children, or assume we do. Play is the child's native language, and the more we know this language, the stronger our relationship with our child will be. In this article, I would like to talk about filial therapy, a play therapy model, and how filial therapy will strengthen the parent-child relationship.
Filial therapy, also known as child-centered play therapy, aims to strengthen the relationships between children aged 2-12 and their parents. It was first introduced by Bernard and Louise Guerney in 1960; It is a short-term and evidence-based play therapy model that aims to educate parents about play sessions defined and structured as special play time with their children and to continue these sessions. The process aims to strengthen the relationships of family members with each other and strengthen the coping strategies of both the parent and the child. During the therapy process, parents act as the child's therapist at home. It enables them to understand each other's feelings, thoughts and behaviors and to produce solution-oriented approaches to the problems in their relationships.
In these sessions, the parent discovers the child's skills and characteristics more closely. Together, they get the chance to experience how the child can get away from existing problems when he is accepted unconditionally and his creativity and uniqueness are supported. In this area where the child feels safe, he easily shares his world of feelings and thoughts with the parent and makes them feel understood. In this process, the parent's duty is to focus on the child himself rather than the child's problem. It will be seen that the child will notice this situation in a short time and will repair the areas where he/she has problems with the compassion and understanding of the parent. When he feels better, he will try to improve himself instead of continuing the problem behavior.
So, is playing games an activity that every parent can participate in? Some of us don't like playing games, some of us don't like playing games. Some of us may think that we are excellent players. If you think you have forgotten how to play games, you are lucky to have an excellent teacher, your child. Having your child manage the process and participating in the game when invited are already the cornerstones of filial therapy. Let our children play and let us be their playmates. The child's native language is play, and his words are his toys. I hope the child inside you meets the child next to you.
Stay with the game. With love.
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