For a healthy development of the newborn baby, not only his physical but also emotional needs should be met. Meeting basic needs ensures healthy physical development as well as a healthy secure attachment between the baby and the primary caregiver. This bond supports the baby's future social, emotional and mental development and affects the relationships he will establish as an adult, his view of the world as a safe or insecure place, his self-perception and personality. It is an emotional bond that manifests itself more in situations of stress and separation, where one or both parties seek closeness. An attachment occurs between every parent and baby, but the type of attachment differs in whether and how the baby's needs are met. The most important element of attachment is that the infant's needs are understood and appropriately met by the caregiver. It is very important for the parents to understand the baby's temperament, to determine the appropriate communication methods for the baby, to understand the needs of the baby and to respond to these needs in a short time for a secure attachment. The baby develops a healthy bond not with the person he/she spends more time with, but with the person who meets his/her needs.
Children with Secure Attachment;
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Is that their parents are always there for them. and knows that he will respond to his needs and that he is always available
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Reacts in the absence of parents, but calms down easily when they return
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Better at controlling negative emotions and coping with stressful situations
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More developed social skills
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Around better understand what is happening and other people's feelings
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Explore their surroundings more easily
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They have improved self-esteem and self-confidence
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They are better at empathizing
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Build much healthier relationships throughout their lives
Secure What It Takes to Engage?
- Respond appropriately to baby's feelings and be available max. The baby should know that he can get the attention of his parents when he is afraid or sad, as well as when he experiences positive emotions.
- Looking into the eyes while communicating with the baby from the moment of birth strengthens the bond.
- Never leave home. not to go out secretly, to let the baby know that he will go, to say goodbye and leave the house by stating that he will come back again prevents the child from feeling abandoned and makes him feel safe. observing the need to spend time with the baby, being busy with other things after giving the baby this time, helps the baby learn that he will be given time to reach the parents and meet his emotional needs after being apart, and help him feel safe.
The most important element of attachment is the feeling of trust. The baby, who knows that his physical and emotional needs will be met, first forms a secure attachment with his parents, then this type of attachment and the relationship with the parents shape the child's other relationships, social life, self-perception and view of the world.
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