Although anger, like other emotions, is natural and healthy, it also brings with it some problems such as violence and behavioral problems when it cannot be controlled. Especially when parents cannot cope with their children's tantrums, they think as if this situation will never end, and they worry and become depressed.
When your child is angry, first try to understand him; what does it need right now and why is it showing this behavior? Some words that children say during tantrums may not reflect the truth and may be the outward reflection of your child's masked emotions. Sometimes, your child may engage in negative behavior out of a desire for attention and attention. Often in moments of anger we hear the parent say "I don't love you". For this reason, capturing the messages given by children and discovering their needs will greatly help in solving the problem.
It is important to allow children to express their emotions in times of anger and to let them vent their anger. With anger control, we aim not to destroy the anger, but only to control it, and if there is, we prevent it from engaging in harmful behaviors. To give your angry child a chance to cry and calm him down, you can hug him by the waist or hold his wrists if he is hitting you. Your child may oppose you at this time. First, give a short reflection of the situation by describing the situation in a way that shows that you understand him, then you can say that you will not let him hit you. “I know you are angry because you can't have ice cream before dinner, but I can't let you hit me”. It should not be forgotten that; The tantrums will end after a while. Every emotion has a time. It will not work to expect the child to calm down by scolding, shouting, getting angry at him or locking him in a room. The reasons for children's anger can be many things, and sometimes there are situations that parents do not understand at all or that seem simple to them. For example, they may be disappointed in their own world and throw a tantrum because the toy is not bought even though a very similar toy is at home. Instead of ignoring the child's anger, use sentences that show that you understand him and his feelings. remember, but without compromising the limits, you should explain briefly and clearly why you cannot buy the toy right now. Of course, we do not expect your child to accept the situation and calm down immediately in the face of this explanation, but it would be best to take him to a quiet corner without judging or ignoring him, to make him feel that you are with him and wait until he calms down. However, when you go to crowded environments such as shopping malls, you can bring a few healthy snacks or toys for your child to linger when necessary. Do not be afraid of your child showing his anger, this in a way protects his psychological health and has a healing effect.
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