Family members who come together for different reasons may experience disagreements and conflicts among themselves over time. Sometimes the best solution for a problematic marriage is to end it. After the parents' separation, the child or children will be deprived of the ability to communicate with the love, care, sharing and solidarity that the parents will show together.
Parents who have decided to divorce should consider the mental and physical health of their children while implementing this decision. Before making this decision, the first step that needs to be done is for children to be away from their parents' arguments. After the children are kept away from arguments as much as possible, the next step is to inform the children of the divorce decision. The decision to divorce the children should be made by the mother and father together, with equal right to talk. When having this conversation with children, the priority is to establish bonds of love and trust that the children's previous lives will not change. Children should be placed within a framework of trust that there will be no change in their lives, that no matter which parent has custody of the child, they can reach the other parent at any time, and that the child will have a healthy time with their parents. The course of the conversation should be monitored according to the reactions of the children. The reasons for the separation should be explained according to the children's age, developmental level, experiences until that age, and their personality state. However, while giving all this information to the child, excessive information that the child cannot handle or digest should be avoided. Honest answers should be given to the questions that children ask, the answers to the questions should not be left for later or children should be kept away from "answers for now". After this conversation, some of the children may think that their parents broke up because of them and change their behavior towards their misbehavior and responsibilities, and some may attempt to reconcile their parents.
Children who experience a change of routine after divorce receive emotional support from their parents. However, especially in the early stages of divorce, children are also experiencing deprivation as they are also in the adaptation phase of this process. k can be seen. These children, who lack love and trust, try to get the help they cannot get from their parents from their friends, relatives and teachers. Conscious parents, before deciding to divorce, discuss this situation with psychologists, get ideas on what to do, and ensure that their child gets help to get through this period. If the child receives psychologist support at this stage, it will be easier to overcome possible problems during the divorce process.
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