The number of working mothers is not small in our time. If the mother (or father/primary caregiver), who spends most of the daytime at work, comes home and wants to have fun with her child and satisfy his longing, but problems arise, you can do a favor for your child, yourself and even other members of your family by strengthening the communication between you. Children of working mothers often experience problems such as moodiness, stubbornness, getting what they want by exploiting emotions, not eating on their own, and difficulty falling asleep. Rather than trying to fix the problems, your duty should be to first try to understand the underlying causes of the problems. Start by asking yourself. Why do you think your child exhibits problematic behavior that will complicate your already limited time? “She gets spoiled when she sees me” would be a very shallow answer to clarify this situation. We see that the truth of the matter is in most cases: Young children miss you a lot when you are at work. Every time you drop them off and go to work, they remain mildly restless throughout the day. When they see you, they are both angry with you and miss you. In this ambivalent situation, they try to misbehave and explain that something is not going well. They don't know how to deal with the "longing for you" in their little hearts all day long. That's why Ayşe, who eats her food at the nursery without any problems, is giving you the opportunity to take care of her and show her anger by running after her with the meatball fork at home. Ercan, who cannot see you when he wakes up in the morning because you went to work, cannot fall asleep even though he feels sleepy, so that there will never be a morning and the night he spends with you will not end. Children show us what they want to say through their behavior. Before seeing their mischief as negativity that they do to spite you, you should try to see the reasons behind their behavior. When working mothers/fathers leave home for work, they can create a special farewell game with them and associate separations and reunions by making the same facial expressions, tone of voice and movements in each farewell and reunion. In this way, you will leave a fun legacy for your child that is worth waiting for, and you will have a new arrival after every departure. You can also show it to your child. Another method is to leave your belongings in your child's custody while you go to work and ask your child for it back each time you come back. In this way, your child can learn to console himself with the little thing that represents you when he misses you. We have briefly summarized how working mothers and fathers can help their children overcome the stress they experience in "separation" situations. It is quite expected that he does not want to leave you and that he will fight with you when you come home. In addition to the above, being a mirror to your child by telling him what he might be feeling will also help reduce the stress he experiences.
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