Some people reading this title may encounter the use of the words marriage and love together with a slight smile. Because "Marriage kills love" is a sentence that has been engraved in all of our minds and souls for years. At this point, it is necessary to evaluate love separately from feelings of excitement and passion. Because those butterflies in the stomach and loss of appetite are more related to excitement and passion. Love is a much deeper and more meaningful feeling that cannot be confined to certain times.
If two people got married in love, they should talk about and even plan what they should do to protect their love as they step into marriage. Yes, maybe you will say, if both parties have good feelings, what is the need for this plan/program? The primary reason for necessity is that the perception of the institution of marriage consists of connotations such as monotony, stability, routine, rules, husband-wife obligations, which can be considered limiting, emotionless and even boring. If the couple makes their own definition of marriage at the very beginning of their marriage; If they are not trapped within the rules and the framework drawn by others, they will allow their emotions to remain alive. To do this, of course, open, transparent and sincere communication is a must.
Open communication is the cornerstone of closeness. Couples who feel close to each other communicate with their eyes even in crowds; They have the comfort to share their wishes and dreams without hesitation. Closeness also ensures the continuity of love.
Marriage is not just unconditional obedience to an institution. It is a partnership formed by two people, that concerns only them, and that takes care of both their common and individual happiness. The feelings of couples who have their own communication language, care about each other's happiness and peace, and aim to enrich their common areas, let alone neglect them, become stronger day by day.
We can hear the following from many couples, “I love and value my spouse, but He doesn't see it, he doesn't understand it! We can then turn to the spouse and ask what he or she needs to feel loved and valued. In this way, we emphasize that feeling loved can actually be related to completely different behaviors for both people. to protect love This is one of the most important ways; That is, to show his love in a way that will make his partner happy, even if it is not so for him.
One of the important ways to preserve love in marriages is not to stop being an "individual". As in all matters, balance is important in relationships/marriages. If people ignore their own selves and beings while trying to be us, the relationship will lose its appeal after a while. When both people have their own area of existence (profession/hobby/goals/productivity) other than being a spouse, it is beneficial for both themselves and their relationship. In this way, both people will be able to respect and admire each other more, and this admiration will nourish their love.
Of course, many large and small prescriptions can be made to protect love, but in this article, I tried to talk about the most basic points. It seems that the path to love is through care and effort, what do you think?
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