Depression is the name of an emotional collapse in which pessimism, stagnation, reluctance, depressed mood, decreased sexual desire and feelings of powerlessness predominate. With depression there is often a feeling of loss. A separation, a death, a destruction, financial loss; In other words, it is actually the result of losing something that a person attaches meaning to, values, and loves. As depression progresses, many symptoms such as mental slowdown, decreased movements, not wanting to get out of bed, difficulty sleeping, and decreased appetite can be observed.
In depression, the person's sense of worth is impaired. Returning what was lost is no longer enough to make a person happy and continue his old life. For example, even if someone who has suffered huge financial losses finds a source of income to cover this loss, their malaise and unhappiness will continue. The reason for this is the fear that the loss will not come back in time in the person's mind and that he will lose it again. He lost money once, his girlfriend left him once, and he thinks about what if he experiences this again. In other words, someone who breaks up with his girlfriend thinks that his girlfriend will come back to him in a short time. As time goes on, the person begins to feel unimportant, worthless and inadequate. Not being able to obtain the desired object and not being able to provide the longed-for satisfaction puts the person into depression. He realizes with pain that he does not have the power to bring back what is gone. He realizes with pain that he cannot exist without the other. He experiences a great breaking point.
Depression is a painful process that isolates the person, disrupts his social harmony, and includes thoughts of suicide if it lasts for a long time. Finding the cause of depression is the first step in the treatment process. child, We can summarize the causes of depression as follows.
Causes of Depression;
Problems Encountered in the Period of Reconnection in the Mother-Child Relationship (Self Activation)
After the child starts walking at the age of one, he wants to use his own will and explore everything. He moves away from his mother, goes to the next room, does not want his mother to hold his hand, wants to be free. When the child is first separated from the mother, he realizes that me and the other are different, my mother and I are different people. I can run into the next room on my own, climb on the couch, or pick up that fruit and eat it, any time. He thinks that everything is under my control. When the child is approximately 18 months old, he returns to his mother with the feeling of taking shelter in a safe place and receiving the mother's support. During this period, if the mother gets angry with the child, does not care about him anymore when he comes back, punishes the child, or cuts off his feelings, the child cannot separate from the mother. In later years, when he becomes successful, acquires a new hobby, finds an activity in which he can enjoy life alone, that is, when he does something for himself, he experiences great grief and unrest. In fact, what is beautiful from the outside can cause a great depression in a person's inner world. This is the feeling of the child who separates from his mother and tries on his own.
The separation of these people always happens with a ceremony, and they experience intense inner distress when they move from primary school to secondary school, start working in another company, change city, or change house. Separation is a very difficult experience for these people. The reason why it is difficult is the fear of not finding the same people they left behind when they return. This is the result of the child not being able to find his mother as he left her during the rapprochement period.
Oedipal Problems;
For girls, their fathers are very special. The first person they meet is the father of the opposite sex. Mothers are also very special for boys. Between the ages of 4 and 6, the child begins to understand gender roles. A child who realizes his own gender experiences a childish love with the parent of the opposite gender. In children of healthy parents, after the age of 6, this relationship returns to the parent-child relationship. In some families, this relationship never ends. For example, a father always calls his daughter 'my love', or a mother calls her son 'my darling'. These words are words spoken to the lover. Children who grow up with these feelings tend to choose partners who resemble their parents later in life. These spouses are very good for the person at the first stage and make them happy. As time progresses, emotions from the unconscious begin to rise. Because of being with the father, there is self-blame, anger, anger, depressive feelings, anxiety and a very intense feeling of fear. Being with the father for the sake of the child unconsciously causes the mother to punish the child. While this is the reason for fear, the reason for other emotions is the experience within oneself. It is depression. Sometimes women experience this after giving birth. They say that everything was fine until the birth, but that they became depressed after the birth. The reason is the same. Being with a person who unconsciously resembles a father or mother.
Failure (Feeling of Inadequacy);
The child begins to establish a relationship with the outside world between the ages of 6-12 on average. The child needs to do something in order to be accepted by the outside world: to be successful in any subject, to be liked physically, to be organized, that is, to present himself in a subject that is accepted by society. Success is a fundamental emotion for existence in society. On average, healthy parents love their children, the child does not need to make an effort to make them love themselves, but this is not the case for society.
When the child becomes an adult, he wants to exist in society. People who cannot find a place for themselves in society and are not successful become depressed. Because the sense of worth is impaired in depression, the environment and self are evaluated negatively. The person perceives himself as a bad, worthless, empty person. These people are reluctant and often passive towards the outside world. The person attributes his failures and disappointments to his own inadequacy.
Collective Consciousness;
A person has his own experiences, childhood memories, traumas, emotions. There are also memories he has with his surroundings, with his parents, teachers, friends and relatives. Parents also have their own relationships, and the feelings of the neighborhood, culture, or society in which they live. Not all of the emotions a person feels belong to him/her; sometimes he feels the emotions of his parents and the society he lives in. For example, parents may look at a person who has a history of rape in their family with the feeling of wondering if their daughter will be raped too. This person may have to deal with instinctive fears of constant rape in later ages. This is the case with depression. For example, being happy in that community or city is a bad thing. Being a victim and a poor thing is a good thing. Or, suffering may be considered a good thing, and wandering around and having fun may be considered a bad thing. When the child who grows up in that society grows up and becomes rich, he travels and dusts himself. He feels bad about it. They think that my family is unhappy and victimized and that I am just wandering around. His inner voice tells him that he doesn't deserve this, that while everyone else is in this situation, he should be like them. This creates great internal confusion in the person and can cause depression.
Treatment of Depression;
With the psychodynamic psychotherapy technique, the cause of the person's depression is first found. A detailed anamnesis is taken regarding the depression process. This process is personal, so the emotions of people who are depressed may differ from each other. As the client's emotions deepen, a connection is made between childhood and today. The unconscious is the product of long-term accumulation. Therefore, the emotion felt today, the behavior performed, the thought that comes to mind are not just the product of today.
The dynamic relationship established between the client and the therapist, the connection between the past and the present, enables the person to make sense of his experiences. Making sense is the first stage. The second stage is conversion. The therapist listens to the client's feelings in a respectful, calm, serene, non-judgmental and compassionate manner. In this way, the client experiences a different relationship. This enables the client to accept, transform and change their emotions. During the process, the client has various transfers to the therapist, the therapist matches the figures with whom the client spent time in his childhood, and the interpretation of this and the client's experience of a different relationship occurs in what we call the in-depth working period of therapy. Research shows that therapy changes the person's brain structure, increases the interaction between neuronal networks and offers the person a more comfortable life.
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