Every parent is actually a little worried from the moment they have a child. During the care of the newborn baby, the growth period, childhood and adolescence, every parent wishes their child to develop at good standards and at a good level. In fact, raising children is an art and each child is different from the other. Parents should be aware of this and exhibit attitudes and behavior accordingly.
The biggest role models for the child are mothers and fathers. Children who have the ability to record every negativity made have a high potential to be affected by tension and inconsistent behavior. These may negatively affect children's behavior in the future. That's why education and conscious parenting are two very important factors at this point.
Especially mothers may get angry and annoyed from time to time due to the child's wishes, desires or stubbornness, but the most important thing to pay attention to here is to exhibit clear and consistent behavior. A child who understands that he can get everything he wants by crying will express all his wishes to you in this way and will continue his crying behavior until his wish comes true.
It is always ideal to find a middle ground with children. Overindulgence or excessive discipline is not good behavior. It is necessary to listen to your children, let them express what they mean, and not find their wishes and behaviors inappropriate. Respecting the areas they are related to, that is, their own world, and giving children the right to speak is a very important form of behavior. If the child does not grow up with love and respect, he/she may exhibit certain behaviors to attract attention. I would like to point out that this situation is a situation that needs to be solved rather than calling it combative or naughty. Because such behaviors affect the child from character to self-confidence in the future.
In order to call something a behavioral disorder, it is necessary to know well the developmental period and the characteristics of this period. Every child can be naughty to certain extent or display stubborn attitudes about getting his/her own wishes done. If the attitudes and behaviors do not reflect their age, if the intensity of the attitudes they show is high, and if the continuity of their behavior is long, this situation should be ignored.
What should be done at this point?
Every child can make mistakes unconsciously. Punishing mistakes will cause lies, fear and shame in the child. This is not a pattern of behavior we approve of. Instead, saying "I was upset that you exhibited this behavior" and expressing your reaction without getting angry will extinguish the child's feelings of stubbornness and revenge. Being as open with the child as possible is one of the healthiest behavioral models. For example, sleeping hours can be clear and specific. Let them accept that no matter how much they resist, you will not give up at this point.
Try to teach the behavior you want by making it fun, not as a rule, and appreciate their success. Appreciating reinforces behavior. Stay away from comparison, avoid negative labels. Try to solve problems together.
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