There is a very thin line between tendency to want what does not exist
Obsession.
Realize...
Do you have to talk like that? Do you have to dress like this? Do you have to do it like this?
You don't do anything right the way he wants anyway. You are not a good mother/father, you are not a good wife, you are not a good lover, you have no real friends, all your friends take advantage of you, but you are so ....... that you cannot see this, all the relationships you have had so far have been despicable anyway, in your profession You are no good, nothing you have ever done is right, you have lived this life in vain. Your existence pollutes the world, you are not worth as much as an insect.
I wonder why he chose someone as terrible as you?
You're not this good, why are you with me? Why does the person you are bother him so much?
Why doesn't he just walk away even though he's so uncomfortable?
Or does it exist by manipulating you and attacking your existence?
He feels so incomplete, so pathetic, so inadequate that the only way he can stand by you is if you feel as bad as he does?
So why do you allow someone to attack your existence like this? Is he doing this out of love?
Do you love him so much that one day he will understand, trust you and change?
Will he change when you heal his wounds?
He already loves you very much, he felt such love for the first time, he got scared and his behavior changed.
He loves, you love, great!
Do you love yourself?
Does your love for someone who has tried to destroy everything that makes you who you are allow you to love yourself?
You can't heal him, you can't heal someone who doesn't want to heal. Even if he wants, these doctors' job is not yours, let the doctors heal you. Continuing to be in a relationship with a person who may have a Personality Disorder can cause you unimaginable harm.
He will not stop until he destroys you, so will you stop?
No matter how much you give, no matter how much you restrict his life to make him comfortable, it will not be enough for him, you will feel inadequate, guilty in every situation. He will do his best to make you feel bad. You suffer from this abuse day by day. You will move away from yourself and the world.
Are you going to leave it aside and look at yourself and question which self-structure of yours is identified with the bad side of the person who exhibited this evil?
The healthy relationship that people need; It flows with respect, honor and love for the mutual being of partners. Experiences involving the above and similar behaviors are psychological violence.
Please get help if you are in such a situation, get out before you lose all your life energy!! ️
Do not forget Salman Akhtar's words: “Life is what others do to us,
It consists of what we allow others to do and what we do to ourselves.”
With all my heart, I wish you a life in which you can protect yourself and your boundaries, and healthy relationships in which you can feel at peace and safe, and in which you can grow and expand.
With Love and Regards
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