Nowadays, although most relationships seem perfect from the outside, often only the couple themselves know what is really going on. In most relationships, there is a cycle of betrayal, distrust and jealousy due to the effects of developing technology, changing living standards and upbringing. Even though they have never betrayed each other yet, behind the intense trust problem, couples restrict each other, think that they are protecting themselves and their relationships by putting obstacles in activities and constantly monitoring each other. A constant fear of being cheated on and the expectation that it will happen one day haunt couples... Moreover, there is no need to have been cheated on before for this insecurity, this fear is always present even if it is not experienced. Even though they love so much, it is not easy to trust so much...
So why do we cheat or be deceived? There are many answers to the question. This problem may sometimes be a problem caused by the person himself, or it may be entirely related to the other party. However, in the cycle of deception and being deceived, the one who is unilaterally at fault is the one who cheats or is deceived; Seeing the fault of one side is undoubtedly an avoidance of confrontation. It is not the individuals who are at fault; It is not a party that is wrong, the problem area is just the relationship itself. Even if your partner cheats on you or you are the one who is cheated on, you can be a respected, successful and good person who is loved by those around you. The problem here should not be trying to judge people and labeling the person as bad. Because it is the relationship, not the person, that is bad. There can be many reasons for cheating; Many things can be listed such as incompatibility, a search for a different one, wrong family relationships taken as an example, unsatisfied feelings, distance, habitual or learned relationship style, alcohol, reflection of other problems, but these may not be completely character traits, cheating may occur as a result of a bad relationship. . Although it includes psychological factors, there are also studies on the genetics of cheating. Recently, the gene for cheating has been found through research conducted by scientists. In the research conducted by the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, tests were performed on couples who had been together for at least five years. According to the results of the research, there are two genes from the gene named AVPR1A 334. It turns out that men who have it are weak in terms of commitment to their wives. As for women, Prof. in England. Tim Spector and his team; With their research on 1600 identical and fraternal twins, they claimed that there was a direct connection between women's fidelity and their genetic structure. However, these rates, which we cannot say are entirely genetic, once again show us the effects of psychological and environmental factors. Even though these are the apparent problems of couples who have cheating problems and trust problems in their relationships, the underlying reasons that push them to this must be investigated. Couples should definitely receive psychological support and couple therapy when they cannot resolve these issues. These therapies do not mean that the therapist makes the decision to end or continue the relationship. It is a system in which people make their own decisions by helping them find the most appropriate option for a healthy relationship, to continue or to end it.
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