You insist that you are right and the other person is wrong, you imply that the other party is entirely to blame for the problem, you argue and admit no fault or fault, you claim that you are an innocent victim of the other person's tyranny, you make the other person feel inferior or ashamed You use harsh and hurtful language to make the other person feel, you describe the other person as "scum", "poor" or worse, your attitude, words and tone of voice are patronizing and condescending, you respond to criticism with criticism, you make the other person You imply that the other person is at fault or incompetent, you change the subject or list past grievances, you protect yourself from being criticized by the other person by acting like a terrible jerk, you claim that you have tried everything but nothing has worked, you complain that the other person is not the way you want them to be. you deny your own role in the problem or, if you actually have a role, you don't feel upset, you give advice instead of listening, you ignore the other person's feelings and try to solve the problem that is bothering him, you say nothing, you sulk or slam doors, you make the other person feel bad about you You expect him to know how you feel without having to explain it, you are not clear enough in your wishes and you expect him to guess your wishes without you stating it, you fuel arguments with the "you" language and you do not express your own feelings and emotions with the "I" language. We do it even if we don't want to. Many of us are not even aware that we are making these mistakes. Realizing these communication mistakes, looking back at yourself, accepting these mistakes you have made somewhere, and making an effort to change them will be a huge step towards fixing bad relationships.
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