Do We Know How to Praise?
'I'm Very Beautiful Today'
“Oh, did you lose weight?” “No dear, I have already bought it for the last month”
“I love the blouse you are wearing!” “However, it is from last season”
“Wow, this make-up suits you very well!” “I don't know if that's a bit of an exaggeration?!”
The dialogues seem a little familiar, right? The praise is similar to those wonderful silk blouses that we can never fit but always want to wear. We know that if we wear it, we will feel very beautiful and very valuable, but we cannot find a place to wear it or a skirt that will fit underneath.
As Turkish people, we already have difficulty in praising, but I think one of our biggest problems is to accept the praise. Worrying about whether the other person will think we like ourselves is just one of the reasons that pushes us to this situation. So, do we not deserve praise at all or is it a bad thing to be praised?
In fact, we should learn to praise other people in order to normalize praise and take it for granted. Healthy and genuine praise is an action that should be implemented daily. Of course, as in everything else, it is very important not to exceed the limits and to know the dosage. For example, you do not need to talk too much about the beauty of your eyes to your general manager, or to emphasize "more" about the weight of a friend who is already overweight. I'm sure that your friend, your general manager, has aspects or actions that are praiseworthy regarding his job, other than his weight.
How can we praise people and not be surprised when we receive praise from people? So let's start by praising ourselves first. No, not to others! First to ourselves... When you take one last look in the mirror before leaving home in the morning, reward yourself with 3 compliments that will make you feel good. “Red lipstick looks great on me today” “I thank myself for doing my yoga early in the morning” “I am proud of myself for feeding each of my children and sending them to school”. See, it is not that difficult to praise yourself, the important thing is to break the usual routine, see what actually exists and emphasize it. You will already do yoga, you will already prepare breakfast for your children, you will already put on make-up while going to your full-time job, but sometimes there is a need for these routines. Shouldn't you stop and say, "Actually, I'm not living such an easy life either, good for me"?
Life is like this, there are situations where we always stumble in the negative, but do not stop and thank for the positive and constant actions. Let's start from tomorrow and reward yourself with 3 compliments, make sure that something will start to change in your life, even if it is small.
As we come to the end of the article, a big well done to myself for writing this article without postponing it.
Read: 0
