Some children behave differently at home and at school. This can be confusing for parents. It is customary for children to behave differently in different environments. For example, a child is expected to behave differently at a friend's birthday party and differently at a grandparent's house. This difference is predictable. However, some children's behaviors, especially those with a high anxiety threshold, may behave very differently at home than they do at school or at school from home. This inconsistency leaves parents feeling sad or confused, and they may worry that something is wrong.
Some children have trouble communicating with their teachers and peers. When they come home, they can often talk about problems at school and sad events they have experienced. They resist housework and may even throw tantrums.
Again, some children can be very talkative, witty and energetic at home. When he comes to school, he may have a profile that never speaks to his teachers and friends, and is often worried in school life.
Why do children react so differently in different environments?
To school and home. Children who develop more positive attitudes than children
Academic success: Children who are academically successful at school may behave more positively at school because they meet their teachers' expectations. When they do not see the same attitude in their parents when they come home, when parents feel that they make them feel competitive, they may engage in destructive behaviors at home, especially while doing homework.
Routines: Because all processes at school take place within the framework of routines and Since children have to comply with routines, in-school routines can be preferred for students, it is a feature that makes life easier. Parents may face reactions at home when routines are not practiced at home as much as they are at school.
Social modeling: At school, what students model from each other and from their teachers is more effective and effective at home than from their parents. They can model positive behaviors and adapt more than at home.
Children who develop more positive attitudes towards home and school
Concerns: Children who are worried about how they are perceived by others, have social anxiety, or have performance concerns may not have any problem behavior at home. However, when they go to school and have to be active in the lessons or, for example, reading aloud part of the work in the classroom, they may engage in some negative behavior to avoid this.
Own rules: Children who spend too much time on screen time or Lego games at home and follow their own rules, not parents, should not be allowed to do these when they come to school, or they can do unlimited things at home. Since it is difficult for them to wait for activities, they may exhibit negative behavior in school.
What can be done;
To provide cooperation and open communication between home and school. Communicating about the situation at home and in the school, sharing the methods or techniques applied for the student at home or at school, and determining a common roadmap
Visual charts such as follow-up charts applied at school and sharing the result with the teachers
Recognizing what kind of reaction one has at home and at school by paying attention to the above headings
For children whose reactive behaviors occur at home, they should first be given an opportunity to relax when they come home from school, and they should understand that domestic rules should still be followed while being given the opportunity
Allowing them to receive support for self-regulation, anxieties and coping with strong emotions in cases where they have difficulty in resolving
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